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Honesty

It is of the manners of the high path of Islam to be honest when one speaks.

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said,

“Honesty certainly leads to goodness, and goodness leads to paradise. Truly, a man keeps speaking the truth until he is inscribed as being true through and through.

And lying leads to going wrong, and going wrong leads to hell. Truly, a man lies and lies until he is inscribed as being a liar through and through”

(Hadith in Sahih Muslim)

 

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Courtesy and Politeness

First: What is the meaning of courtesy and politeness?

I mean politeness in dealing with people, I mean a sensitive spirit, I mean a pretty soul, I mean beauty, cleanliness, order, I mean the delicate sensation and perceptive soul that discerns what is wrong through a glance or a smile.

Politeness with people

Visiting the ill: Do not stay for a long time when visiting the ill in order not to make him tired, except if he was comfortable with your stay. Yet, generally we must not stay for a long time.

Four people went to visit Imam Abu-Hanifa when he was ill and they stayed for a long time. He said, “Please go, Allah has cured me”.

Courtesy and Politeness with Neighbors

- The Prophet (peace be upon him), in his Sunnah, teaches us that if one brings home a special kind of food or fruits, and the neighbors see it; then he should offer them some. You should not hide it, but at the same time do not show off. If they see it then you should offer them some of it. A Muslim should not come home carrying a bag of apples, for example, and give his children some in front of his neighbors in order to show them that he is well off. This is not courteous. He must also offer his neighbours some apples out of courtesy.

The following story is an example of being patient and courteous with one's neighbours:

- Imam Abu-Hanifa liked to perform Qiyyam (night prayer); and his next door neighbor was a corrupt young man who used to return home at night completely drunk, and keeps on singing, which disturbed the Imam during his prayer. The Imam knew that if he tried to advise him when he is in this state, he is not going to listen. The young man used to sing, “They let me down, they let me down.”

One night, the Imam did not hear his voice, so he inquired about him, and he was told that the police caught him because he was drunk. The Imam decided to call him to Islam in an indirect way. He went to the police and told them, “Would you let him go for my sake?” They replied that he is always drunk. However, the Imam insisted until they let him go. The Imam made him ride behind him on his mule, and he stayed quiet all the way home. When they arrived home, he asked him, “Have we let you down, chap?” He replied, “No, by Allah, I swear by Allah that I will never go back to drinking (wine) again.” Do you see the effect of gentleness and courtesy with people?

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Smiling Is Charity

Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:

“And your smiling in the face of your brother is charity, your removing of stones, thorns, and bones from people’s paths is charity, and your guiding a man gone astray in the world is charity for you.”

Any person who comes across this beautiful saying must pause for some moments to consider some of its meanings and implications. The hadith has two main concerns:

  1. Awakening the springs of goodness in the human heart
  2. Strengthening the society with the bond of love, affection, and brotherhood

Charity, as it is traditionally understood, consists of money or various objects given by the rich to help the poor or by the strong to help the weak. Charity, according to this understanding, is extremely narrow and its effects on the life of society are limited. The saying of the Prophet, however, takes charity out of this narrow, physical meaning and on to a spiritual plane that opens up a vast and limitless world by emphasizing that every good is charity. ........

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Adab - Courtesy and Respect

Adab is courtesy, respect, appropriateness. Adab is not formality; it helps to create the context in which we develop our humanness. Every situation and relationship has its proper adab: between students on the path, in relation to family members and elders, in relation to one's teacher. Every level of being also has its adab, including coming into the presence of Truth (Al-Haqq). 

The model of adab in the Islamic tradition is the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing upon him), who said: "None of you will have authentic faith until your hearts are made right, nor will your hearts be made right until your tongues be made right, nor will your tongues be made right until your actions be made right." 

As one begins to become aware of the benefits and possibilities of adab it becomes strikingly clear how much has been lost in contemporary culture in the name of some hypothetical personal freedom and individuality. 

When a student in the quest of Devine knowledge steps over the threshold into a house of God, he leaves the "world" and its concerns behind. The house of God is the school of love. We come here to observe, listen, and learn, and to practice service -- not to pursue the ambitions of the world, not to satisfy or promote our own egos, nor to consume exciting "spiritual" experiences ........

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Kindness without discrimination

It is easier being kind to those whom we consider deserving of our sympathy, but true kindness means practicing generosity of heart without discrimination. We may find ourselves wrestling with the apparent irregularity of being kind to those who have not treated us well; where our kindness may not stop the recipient from being hostile or inconsiderate towards us. It is when we display kindness in these circumstances that we present the best of ourselves. How magnanimous the mercy of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) at the conquest of Makkah when he readily forgave the Makkans who had for years persecuted, excommunicated and exiled him, his family and followers. Here was an expression of kindness from a merciful one that emanated from a forgiving and a loving heart. 

Practicing daily acts of kindness is an essential element of fruitful living. Sharing kindness with others is the most rewarding and fulfilling act one can engage in. There is nothing more comforting, more gratifying for a conscientious soul than knowing that through a kind word, a helpful act, a cheerful smile you made someone's burden a little lighter, a day little brighter or situation a little more pleasant. A kind and generous act will go further, mean more, last longer and be remembered long after the prism of politeness or complexion of courtesy has faded away.

If kindness has no effect on the recipient, it at least benefits the bestower; so kindness is never wasted. Do remember however that one cannot do an act of kindness too soon, for one never knows how soon it will be too late. Kindness is indeed a most noble quality, a characteristic of the Supreme Being. The Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said: "Allah is kind and loves kindness in every matter".

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The Prophet's Truthfulness

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was known as a truthful person even before Islam.

The people of Makkah, the unbelievers included, called him As-Sadiq Al-Amin (the truthful and trustworthy). Even his enemies did not accuse him of lying after he proclaimed Prophethood ......

Truthfulness is always in the interest of the truthful .......

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Excellence of meeting with a smiling Countenance and Politeness in Speech
 
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "It is also charity to utter a good word.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary:  In Islam, it is not spending money alone that counts as charity; talking to somebody in a decent way also comes in the same context.

Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Do not disdain a good deed, (no matter how small it may seem) even if it is your meeting with your (Muslim) brother with a cheerful face.''
[Muslim].

Commentary:  Every deed approved by the Shari`ah is considered good and rewarding. Howsoever seemingly small people may consider it, it must not be looked at from a highbrow angle. Even to meet people cheerfully is one of the Islamic virtues, though it may appear quite insignificant to some people.

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"Muslims Character" - Muhammad Al-Ghazali (ra)
 
Al-Furqan (The Criterion) Sura 25: Verse 20 (partial)

"We have made some of you as trials for others. Will you have patience? For Allah is One Who see" (all things)."

If wealth and property are amassed as a result of the capabilities and striving of the people, then some people amass lot of riches and some people get only the bare necessities. And this cannot be objected to. The question regarding misfortune and ungratefulness arise when these people live a life away from the society, when they are concerned only with meeting their own personal needs and for providing for their own pleasures and luxuries, when Allah has caused the people to live together, and has declared this togetherness of theirs, instead of differences in their circumstances, a severe trial for them. This provides a test for their faith and an opportunity for proving their worth.

A community can be successful in this field of life only when the relationship among its individuals is strong and firm. No individual of the community should be so deprived that he may be facing a life of starvation and no wealthy man of the community should be so greedy that he may be spending his wealth only for his own personal pleasures and luxuries.

To achieve this high objectives Islam has framed very strong laws. Peoples' hearts have been prepared to indulge in righteous and virtuous deeds, and they have been tempted to co-operate with each other, help each other and act righteously. It explained to them that the benefit of spending in the cause of Allah is not only derived by the poor and needy persons but the givers of charity also achieve the invaluable riches of peace and satisfaction; their hearts are protected from the earthquakes of rancour and jealousy, and they are saved from the adverse consequences of selfishness and narrow- mindedness.


 

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Excellence in Worship
 
Prophet Muhammad speaks about worshipping God as if we can see Him, and knowing, believing, and feeling in one's innermost core that He can see us at all times. This is about checking our intentions before every action, our conscience being active at all times, being humble and aware of our equality in front of God,  having the utmost trust in God's power and mercy, and seeking help from Him and Him alone.

 

Excellence in worship is also achieved through excellence in action, for in Islam, worship goes beyond rituals and includes regular daily actions, if done with the proper intention. That is why ihsan can be pursued through many different channels.

 

Ihsan also means doing good to one's self and doing good to people, and it means not being attached to material things in this world, or as the Prophet said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a wayfarer." (Al-Bukhari)

 

Living one's life as if one can see Allah means being in a constant state of awareness that all one's actions are being observed and recorded. It is a special state of God-consciousness that prevents us from doing wrong and causes us to aim for excellence in everything that we do.

 

It is to ask yourself: Would you throw that piece of garbage on the street if you could actually see God in front of you right now? If you could see Him watching you, would you ignore that poor person on the corner, or would you stop to give that person some charity? Would you cheat? Would you lie? Would you hurt others?

 

Doing good in this world is given such a high priority in the Quran that in many different parts the Quran describes the rewards of those that do good, and they are given the title of those who have achieved ihsan. The Quran says what means:

 

[And do good. Truly Allah loves those who achieve ihsan.] (Al-Baqarah 2:195)

 

[For those who do good in this world there is good, and the home of the hereafter will be better. And excellent indeed will be the home of the pious.] (An-Nahl 16:30)

 

[For those who have done good is the best reward and even more. Neither darkness nor dust nor any humiliating disgrace shall cover their faces. They are the dwellers of Paradise, they will abide therein forever.] (Yunus 10:26)

 

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Spreading Salams: A Source of Love among Muslims

The Prophet (peace be upon him) has taught Muslims the most unique and beautiful method of greeting each other: "By Him in Whose Hand is my life, you shall not enter paradise until you believe. And you will not believe until you love each other. And, shall I not lead you to something, that if you did, you would begin to love each other? Spread the greeting of Salam among yourselves!"

Therefore, if someone greets you, "As-Salamu Alaykum" (peace be with you), either you respond with similar words, "Wa-Alaykum as-Salam" (peace be with you too), or with something more, "Wa-Alaykum as-Salam wa-Rahmatullahi wa-Barakatuh" (peace, and the Mercy of Allah, and His Blessings be upon you). Hassan (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "While initiating the Salam is strongly recommended, its reply is obligatory (wajib)."

Imam al-Shafi reported that Abdullah ibn Umar (a well-known companion of the Prophet) used to sometimes visit the market place with no intention other than to say Salam to people there.

Majid Al-Daryabadi quotes a British woman, fascinated by this unique tradition of extending Salams among Muslims: "these gentle words of greeting each other as they pass, is a music to the ear. It is amusing to watch the dexterity with which two friends will sustain a competition in greeting - each endeavoring to outdo the other in compliments... master and the servant, the rich and the poor, the learned and the unlettered, greet each other with the same dignity on both sides, leading to no loss of self-respect to either."


"Tafsir Ishraq Al-Ma'ani", Sayyid Iqbal Zaheer



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Excellence in Cordial Relations

Ihsan adds beauty and excellence to cordial relations. No relationship can be established on measuring constantly whether one has fulfilled one's obligations. One should not be very particular about one's own rights, with a view to ensuring that one gets all that is one's due. Rather, one should be ever-ready to do favours for others. A strictly business-like relationship may work. However, this would be lacking in mutual love, gratitude, sacrifice, sincerity and warmth, which are so important in life. Doing good stands for excellent conduct, generous dealings, a sympathetic attitude, good manners, forgiveness and making allowances. One should be prepared to accept less than one's due and give others more than what they deserve. This point is eloquently made in the following hadith:

"O Allah! Let me maintain ties with him who severs these. Let me grant him his due that deprives me of what is due to me. Let me forgive him who wrongs me." (Mishkat)

In other words this character trait demands that one should give others over and above what is their due. More importantly, one should do good to him who wrongs one. For true believers are those who repulse evil with their good deeds...


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General Supplication

What one wants for oneself, one must also desire for others. Islam induces man to share the good things of life with his fellowmen as his brothers. Islam teaches us that the more general a supplication is, the more likelihood there is of its acceptance. There are many sayings of the Prophet, peace be upon him, that corroborate this.

When a Muslim supplicates for others and wishes for them what he wishes for himself, and continues to do so over a long period, it brings him nearer to Allah as well to his fellowmen. And he gradually attains to a state where his likes and dislikes merge and become one with the pleasure and displeasure of Allah. In addition, he is saved from moral diseases, like malice, envy, spite, and hatred of others. Good and healthy feelings eventually become the hall-mark of his social behaviour, so he is eager to help others and overlook their faults and is ready to forgive them.


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Islamic Manners in Discussions and Debates

If you have trouble understanding some of what has been said in a meeting, hold your questions until the speaker has finished. Gently, politely, and with proper introduction, ask for clarification. Do not interrupt a person's speech. Never raise your voice with the question, or be blunt to draw attention to yourself. This is contrary to the proper manner of listening, and stirs up contempt. However, this is not the rule if the meeting is for studying and learning. In such a case, asking questions and initiating a discussion is desirable if conducted respectfully and tactfully and only after the speaker finishes. The Khalifah Al-Mamun said: "Discussion entrenches knowledge much more than mere agreement."

Never interrupt a speaker. Never rush to answer if you are not very confident of your answer. Never argue about something you do not know. Never argue for the sake of argument. Never show arrogance with your counterparts especially if they hold a different opinion. Do not switch the argument to belittle your opponent's views. If their misunderstanding becomes evident, do not rebuke or scold them. Be modest and kind. A poet once said:

Who could get me a friend?
Who if I offend will remain calm
Who would listen intently to what I have to say
When he knows it better than I do


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Allah's Family

The principle to accord a humane treatment to people and avoid hurting them is not restricted to Muslims. It is only that such behaviour has been specially stressed in regards to Muslims. All of Allah's creatures are "His family", so much so that animals too are included within this fold.

To keep a camel hungry or weigh it down with unbearable load, not to give it enough rest, or to slaughter an animal within sight of another, or to us a blunt knife for slaughtering an animal or to steal a bird's young chick from its nest, or to put an anthill to fire are all forbidden acts.

When such are the guidelines for the treatment of animals, you can well imagine what are the rights of human beings, whether they be sinful Muslims or non-Muslims.

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