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    Posted: 03 December 2010 at 2:31am
Inshallah I am getting married in January. I will be becoming a step-mother to two beautiful daughters, Mashallah.  I want to know some information about the rights and obligations of step relationships. Also if any Arabic speaking people can tell me the Arabic phrase for step-mother that would be great.

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Assalamo Alaikom sister and congratulations for your marriage
 
The word in Arabic for step-mother is zawgat al-ab
 
Bringing up two step daughters with care and love, as if they were your own daughters, is an excellent good deed which is highly rewarded by God
 
In this case, do your best to consider them as your daughters, and if in the future you have your own child, do your best not to differentiate between them (it may not be easy where emotions are concerned, but at least treat them all on the same level)
 
If your two step-daughters are too young to know that you are not their real mother, you must tell them that when they grow up
 
Wishing you a happy marriage
 
May Allah make it a blessed marriage
 
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Its also obligatory for children to respect and obey you as companion of their father and as a mother.
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Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  It sounds like you will be a great step mother since you are even asking about the rights and obligations of step mothers here on this site.  You must be a very nice person and a good Muslimah, masha'Allah.
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Assalaamualekum
 
Congratulations and may Allah bless your marriage Sister Aisha:)
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Jazakallah Khair everyone!
I have another question. So my fiance's oldest daughter asked him if he can call me Mom. I told him that I thought that his ex-wife may feel sometime of way about that and suggested that maybe they can call me Umi? Is this okay is there any hadith or ruling about this?
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Your feeling for ex wife of your fiance are appreciable. While rights of the mother (ex-wife) are to be respected and with held, Islam does not undermine your rights.

Depending upon the age of the daughter, it may be appropriate that the child is let to know your status. You have the same status as that of mother. Being wife of the father, you have the status of the mother for the children and the children must know that.

http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?id=13819 (You can read about wet nurse, and step mother at this link, ie the status at almost all available sources I could find).


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