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    Posted: 07 June 2011 at 8:21pm
Hello Everyone,
My name is Alicia and I have been thinking about converting to Islam since last Sept. only thing that is really holding me back is that I'm a very shy person. So I'm nervous to visit the local Masjid because of fear of rejection and the possible rejection I would face by my family. I'm not really to worried about my losing friends, those can be replaced but my family I can't replace. So if anyone could give me advice on how to get over my Masjid-o-phobia and advice about the family issue would be greatly appreciated too. This is something that is really important to me and I know in my heart this is what religion I need to be studying and practicing. I just need to take the next step by taking my shahada. I'm just really sad that it has taken me so long to seek help because tomorrow isn't promised...So please help me.
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Hi Alicia

So a couple of things. As far as your family is concerned, you don't need to tell them right now. It may be better to accept Islam now, and then get to the point where you feel confident enough to tell them. I'm sure some of the reverts on this forum who have gone thru this can offer good advice on this.

As for the fear of the masjid, we at WhyIslam can arrange for a mosque visit. If you PM me your location, we can try and find a local sister who can help you come to the mosque and, God willing, take shahadah.
May Allah give me patience, Ameen.

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Rating: 0 of 0 votes Quote Al-Cordoby Replybullet Posted: 07 June 2011 at 10:29pm
Welcome to the forum Alicia

The two concerns you mentioned are typical issues which many converts worry about.

The important thing to remember as one comes closer to God is to trust Him and always ask for His help and support

On the practical side, in addition to brother Hamayoun's suggestions, these are some resources which you may wish to consider concerning family relations:

How do I tell my parents and family I've become a Muslim?
Practical advice for the new Muslim on this sensitive issue.

http://islamfortoday.com/ummzaid01.htm

First Family Visit As a Muslim
Texas Muslim, Juan Galvan, shares his experience of explaining to his Mexican-American family about his conversion to Islam.

http://islamfortoday.com/galvan04.htm

How do we relate to non-Muslim relatives?
Dr. Aisha Hamdan offers practical advice to converts.

http://islamfortoday.com/relatives.htm

Advice for New Muslims or those considering Islam
Practical tips from a fellow convert.

http://islamfortoday.com/ummzaid03.htm

Hope all goes well In-Shaa-Allah

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Thanks for the advice. But I have some great news...I got in touch with a friend from college and she is a Muslim. So tomorrow I'm going to Jumah with her to the Masjid she attends
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Rating: 0 of 0 votes Quote kavalec Replybullet Posted: 09 June 2011 at 10:49pm
Originally posted by goldensunshine

Thanks for the advice. But I have some great news...I got in touch with a friend from college and she is a Muslim. So tomorrow I'm going to Jumah with her to the Masjid she attends


Alhamdulillah (all praise is due God)

As you move forward this may help:


How to tell Your Family About Your Conversion

Assalamu Alaikum (peace be with you)
Congratulations and Welcome to Islam! This segment has been specifically created for our new Muslim sisters.   It is intended to assist in nurturing your growth and knowledge through material resources covering the spectrum of Islamic life.

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http://www.muslimahcompass.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=26&Itemid=14
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That's a wonderful surprise

Please keep us updated

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Just got back from the Masjid...it was interesting. The girl I was suppose to go with didn't show up because it was raining out but I went anyway. So I didn't really know anyone but some ladies came and spoke to me and were very friendly...but I still felt odd because even though I brought a scarf with me they didn't make me cover...so I felt like the odd ball out. I also was made the offer of taking my shahadah. Overall I enjoyed myself
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Good start

Do they have any special introductory classes for new Muslims / Non-Muslims?


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Hi Alicica

So do you feel closer to taking shahadah now, if I may ask?
May Allah give me patience, Ameen.

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Hi Alicia!

I'm glad you had a good experience at the mosque! It's great that the ladies were friendly and accommodating. Do you think you might go back soon?
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@Al-Cordoby I don't know if they do but I will be going back next Friday and I'm going to ask and hopefully if they do it doesn't interfere with my college classes
@Hamayoun I'm definitely closer than before...God willing I'll do it next Friday when I go back
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@Aviatrix I'm going back next Friday
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Hi Alicia and welcome to the forum!
 
When I read your message I though I had written it...9 years ago!
 
I'm happy you menaged to go to the mosque, and that you have founf nice MUslim women.
 
Don't worry for your family: I told them one year after converting, when I felt I was ready to. Well, they did give me a bad time, but as you see I have survived, and haven't broken up with them! And some other parents take it much better than mine, so don't worry about it, just concentrate on studying Islam and see if it's the path you want to take.
Spare me the political events and power struggles, as the whole earth is my homeland and all men are my fellow countrymen. K.Gibran
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Hello Alicia:)
 
Welcome to the forum and thank you for joining us.
 
Hope all goes well with the mosque trip and everything else God willing.
 
Please keep us posted ....Don't worry too much and trust your heart.Your family will, God willing, come to appreciate the conviction in your decision with time...any change is new for them too .....give them time and pray to God to make it easy...we are here for you Insha Allah.
 
Take care and God bless you
 
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