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What Leads to Marital Bliss in Islam?

How can Muslim youth build happy homes?

When they get back from their honeymoon, most newlyweds find being married is a lot different than being engaged.

What do you do to keep the honeymoon alive?

http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/477399-what-leads-to-marital-bliss-in-islam.html

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Marriage as a Cosmic Ideal and Social Reality

A talk by Dr. Umar Faruq Abdullah at the 2nd Annual United For Change Conference - Our Families: Our Foundations Conference - Montreal, Canada
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New Muslims: Tips for a Happy Marriage (Part 1)

New Muslims tend to marry quickly after taking their shahadah.

They are told that their spouse can help them grow and learn the deen better, and more quickly.  This is not always the case.

Marriage in the first years is difficult, regardless if religion is a factor or not. Lack of good communication is typically the number one cause for all divorces, even amongst non-Muslims.

The second usually stems around financial problems that arise.

Now, if we throw religion into the mix, it can either cause problems in the marriage, or provide comfort when a problem arises...

http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/477599-new-muslims-tips-for-a-happy-marriage-part-1.html


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When You Marry for Four Reasons, Don't Forget Your Reason

Marriage is a lifelong commitment that requires compatibility, attraction and personality flow...

When we fail to apply reason in matters of religion, we get pain, destruction and failure, especially in marriage. We cannot live a true path of spirituality if our attempt to follow Islam lacks sincerity, wisdom, and deep reflection on our context and ourselves...

A few points to reflect on:

  • Never ever marry someone you don’t feel right about out of fear or pressure. This is likely to lead to failure. In the end, you and your partner will suffer, not your family, your culture, or even your religion.
  • Marry someone who possesses all four reasons mentioned in the hadith not just religion. This is more likely to succeed and sustain a life long partnership.
  • If religion is important to you, avoid marrying someone who does not have religion, even if the other three reasons are alluring. This is just as unlikely to succeed.
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Tips for a Happy Married Life

Spouses: Actualizing Tranquility, Love, and Mercy

When one finds a caring mate through marriage, one enters a realm of calm, soothing companionship that becomes a source of peace for their soul.

The restlessness, loneliness, irritability, desperation and agitation associated with being a virile but unsatisfied young singleton is gone.

Consequently, the spouses consummately lie together in pleasurable tranquility every night, no longer desiring the company of single friends to eliminate solitude...

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How to Bring Happiness to a Muslim Family

Nice talk by Sheikh Yasir Birjas at last year's MAS-ICNA convention on good communication, happiness and mercy within the family


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How many men and women prepare themselves to live as a couple, as a family?

Some think about it, others are already committed to it. We hear of stories… and one is sometimes moved by the expectations and hopes of some, and sometimes saddened by the painful life experiences of others. Perhaps you are also, sisters and brothers, preparing yourselves to engage in this life experience of marriage, known as half of your faith. Or perhaps you have already started sharing your life with someone. In this, your expectations, thank God, were more than met but sometimes doubts have emerged.This… is not what you had expected.

Brothers and sisters, nothing should be idealized.

The perfect husband or the perfect wife only exists in your dreams. God has given you, as He has given others, noble qualities and intelligence. God has given you, as He has given others, faults and deficiencies. Perfection is not given to you or any human being.

It is not enough to share the same faith, the same principles and the same hopes to make an ideal couple. How many young couples have been under the illusion that their future life will be harmonious as if being Muslim was enough for a successful marriage? As if their union was based solely on the meeting of two worlds founded on the same principles that one respects or on the rules which one applies.

This illusion, which yesterday promised a small earthly paradise, today makes life a difficult struggle How many speak about “the principles of marriage in Islam” and actually live the reality of a torn, ravaged and frustrated existence?

Today, more than ever, living as a married couple has become a real challenge. Around us, men and women meet and leave each other in a modern society in which they confuse freedom and the absence of accountability as love and flexibility.


Living as a couple is not without its challenges – preparing yourself, learning and constantly trying to reach out to the other with patience, depth and tenderness. Although it is true that the principles of Islam bring you together, or will bring you together, you must remember each day that the person with whom you share your life comes with his or her own history, wounds, sensitivities and hopes. Learn to listen, to understand, to observe, to accompany.

Living as a couple is the greatest of tests: a test of patience, of attention, of the ability to listen for unspoken words, of self-control, of mending one’s faults, of healing the wounds. In each of these tests, there are two parties. It isn’t easy. A meaningful effort has to be grounded in the deepest sense of spirituality, a jihad, in the most intense meaning of the term. The jihad of love which reminds that feelings have to be taken care of. They are maintained, deepened, rooted through your shared challenges and your patience

Patience and attention to the hearts, in a couple, will lead them towards the light, God willing. Remember, brothers and sisters, the last of the Prophets (peace be on him), an example for eternity, so attentive, so tender, and so patient. He did not only remind the Umma of principles, he enlightened with his presence, his listening, and his love.

Before being the mother of his children, his wife was a woman, his spouse, a person he discovered each day, a person whom he accompanied and who accompanied him; subject of his attention, a testimony of his love. He knew the meaning of silence, the power of a touch, the complicity of a shared glance, the pleasure in a smile, and the kindness found in being attentive.

There are those who idealize the other so much they never really see their partners and those who leave each other too quickly without taking the time to know each other. We are reminded of the principles Islam, its depth, its spirituality, its essence. Living as a couple, forming a relationship, being patient in adversity, loving to the extent of enduring, grounding by way of reforming is an initiation to spirituality. Knowing how to be one with God assures greater comfort in being together as two. A challenge, a test, far from the ideal, close to reality.

Sisters and brothers, you must prepare yourselves to live one of the most beautiful tests of life. It requires all from you, your heart, your conscience, and your efforts. The road is long. One must learn to demand, to share, and to forgive…indefinitely.

Of the things permitted by God, divorce is the most detested. Living as a couple is difficult: remember that your wife is woman before being the mother of your children; remember that your husband is a man before being the father of your children. Know how to live as a couple, within your family…in front of God and in front of your children.

This meeting place, these efforts will result in a sense of protection: They are your garments and you are their garments . Know how to be patient, learn how to be affectionate, offer forgiveness, and you will attain the spirituality of the protected, the proximity of the ones that are close. Faith then becomes your source of light and “his or her” presence, becomes your source of protection; the test of your heart, the energy of your love, half of your faith.

I pray to God that this love be the school of your efforts and the light of your patience.



~Dr.Tariq Ramadan

La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah
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Making Allah the Heart of Our Marriage

That marriage is ‘half our deen’ is no light statement; because, it requires a weighty amount of hard work and faith to make our marriages the vision of tranquility that Allah intends for us.

So what does it take to ‘dwell in tranquility’ with our spouses?

There is no exhaustive to-do (or be) list for a successful spouse just as there is no one-size fits all solution to marital challenges. However, the steps below outline the need to start with a strong spiritual foundation- a key prerequisite to becoming a successful Muslim spouse...

http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/480825-making-allah-the-heart-of-our-marriage.html



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Don't Talk About Your Marriage Problems to Anybody

It is important to keep the secrets of your marriage

Don't Facebook post your problems, rather when needed seek advice from a trusted counselor

It is normal to need to talk to somebody, but don't make it public

Brief advice from brother Nouman Ali Khan

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How to be in Love with your Spouse? |

Dream Muslim Marriage by Shawana A. Aziz

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In the fairy tale, that’s where the story ends. It ends at the finding, the joining, the wedding. It is found at the oneness of two souls. And everyone around you will make you think that your path ends there: at the place where you meet your soul mate, your other half—at the point in the path where you get married. Then and only then, they tell you, will you ever finally be complete. This, of course, is a lie because completion cannot be found in anything other than God. But the lesson you’ve been taught since the time you were little—from every story, every song, every movie, every ad, every well-meaning auntie—is that you aren’t complete otherwise. And if—God forbid—you are one of the ’outcasts’ who haven’t gotten married, or have been divorced, you are considered deficient or incomplete in some way.

The lesson you’re taught is that the story ends at the wedding, and then that’s when Jennah (paradise) begins. That’s when you’ll be saved and completed and everything that was once broken will be fixed. The only problem is, that’s not where the story ends. That’s where it begins.

That’s where the building starts: the building of a life, the building of your character, the building of sabr, patience, perseverance, and sacrifice. The building of selflessness. The building of love.

And the building of your path back to Him.

Yasmin Mogahed, This is Love.

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Put On Smiles: Funny Quotes About Marriage

“A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.” ~ Milton Berle


“After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin, they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.” ~ Hemant Joshi


“Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming

1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,

2. Whenever you're right, shut up.” ~ Nash


http://www.onislam.net/english/family/husbands-and-wives/456779-put-on-smiles-funny-quotes-about-marriage-.html


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How to Get Married

The first in a five part video series presented by brother Abdel Rahman Murphy to help you find the one.

Guidance from the Quran, Sunnah and Marital Counseling Experts.

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Marriage Success

Dr. Hamid Slimi, Imam of a Toronto mosque, talks in this videos about success factors in marriage:

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