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Topic: Virtues and Manners in Islam
Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Subject: Virtues and Manners in Islam
Date Posted: 08 April 2008 at 6:18pm
There are many virtues and good manners which are mentioned in The Qur'an and in the sayings (Hadith) of Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him
 
This thread will shed some light on some of the most important of these virtues as a reminder for Muslims and as a general introduction to Islam for non-Muslims
 
The first of these virtues is the concept of mercy and kindness
 
Mercy in Islam

Mercy is the attribute of Allah, The Most Merciful.

He loves his creatures to deal with each other based on mercy and compassion, so this is an important key manner in Islam.

The Prophet said: "Forgive those who are on earth, so that He who is in the heavens may forgive you." ...

It is from Allah's grace that He hides the sins we commit. For example, imagine what would happen if after every sin we committed we find it written on our doors for everyone to see?

Examples of Mercy

Our Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us that a man went to heaven because he gave a thirsty dog some water! While a woman went to hell because she locked a cat up, she neither fed the cat nor let it go seek its own food! ( Hadith in Sahih Al-Bukhari)

Mercy with our parents:

If we are going to talk about having mercy towards people, the first person who deserves our mercy is our parents. ...

Mercy with our relatives:

The second type of mercy is mercy with your relatives. Being gracious to them lies in visiting them ...

Having mercy on sinners and disbelievers:

The next type of mercy is on sinners and disbelievers. The Prophet, in the worst situations, prayed for the guidance of his fiercest enemies.

Mercy after the Day of Judgment:

After the Day of Judgment some disobeying Muslims will go to Hell. The Prophet will ask Allah to forgive them. This is why Allah kept 99 parts of mercy in the heavens and gave the world just one part. This life doesn’t require except one part, because we will need all the 99 parts of mercy on the Day after which there will be no return.

Source:
 
http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles501.html - http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles501.html


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Posted By: hamayoun
Date Posted: 08 April 2008 at 6:22pm
Salam

Nice topic, mashallah.

http://www.mercyofallah.com/about/mercy1.html - The Mercy of Allah - His Forgiveness

http://www.mercyofallah.com/about/mercy2.html - The Mercy of Allah - His Favors

http://www.mercyofallah.com/about/mercy3.html - The Mercy of Allah - Mercy Between Mankind




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Posted By: MedGirl
Date Posted: 08 April 2008 at 8:01pm
'An-Nu'man b. Bashir reported that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:

Muslims, in their mutual love, kindness, and compassion, are like the human body; when one of its parts is in pain the entire body feels the pain in both sleeplessness and fever.

(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 10 April 2008 at 12:25am

Courtesy and Politeness

(includes 2 nice stories of Imam Abu-Hanifa)
 
First: What is the meaning of courtesy and politeness?

I mean politeness in dealing with people, I mean a sensitive spirit, I mean a pretty soul, I mean beauty, cleanliness, order, I mean the delicate sensation and perceptive soul that discerns what is wrong through a glance or a smile.

Politeness with people

Visiting the ill: Do not stay for a long time when visiting the ill in order not to make him tired, except if he was comfortable with your stay. Yet, generally we must not stay for a long time.

Four people went to visit Imam Abu-Hanifa when he was ill and they stayed for a long time. He said, “Please go, Allah has cured me”.

 
Courtesy and Politeness with Neighbors

- The Prophet (PBUH), in his Sunnah, teaches us that if one brings home a special kind of food or fruits, and the neighbors see it; then he should offer them some. You should not hide it, but at the same time do not show off. If they see it then you should offer them some of it. 

A Muslim should not come home carrying a bag of apples, for example, and give his children some in front of his neighbors in order to show them that he is well off. This is not courteous. He must also offer his neighbours some apples out of courtesy.

The following story is an example of being patient and courteous with one's neighbours:

- Imam Abu-Hanifa liked to perform Qiyyam (night prayer); and his next door neighbor was a corrupt young man who used to return home at night completely drunk, and keeps on singing, which disturbed the Imam during his prayer. The Imam knew that if he tried to advise him when he is in this state, he is not going to listen. The young man used to sing, “They let me down, they let me down.”

One night, the Imam did not hear his voice, so he inquired about him, and he was told that the police caught him because he was drunk. The Imam decided to call him to Islam in an indirect way. He went to the police and told them, “Would you let him go for my sake?” They replied that he is always drunk. However, the Imam insisted until they let him go. The Imam made him ride behind him on his mule, and he stayed quiet all the way home. When they arrived home, he asked him, “Have we let you down, chap?” He replied, “No, by Allah, I swear by Allah that I will never go back to drinking again.”

Do you see the effect of gentleness and courtesy with people?

http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles502.html - http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles502.html



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 12 April 2008 at 6:39am

Selflessness or Altruism (Al-’eethar)

Al-’eethar means giving preference to others over yourself and considering their happiness and welfare before your own.

That is to say, to relinquish some of the pleasures of life to others; they enjoy them and you lose them. When we say that a person has given preference to another one over himself, it means that he preferred this person to himself for the sake of the reward of the hereafter ...

Have you ever considered giving preference to anyone over yourself by giving him your new suit for example? Our motto should be the following hadith; the Prophet (PBUH) said,

“None of you will have faith till he wishes for his brother what he likes for himself.”

This is the motto of al-’eethar. That is to say your faith will be complete only when you wish for your brother what you wish for yourself

http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles719.html - http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles719.html



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 2:35pm

Patience

Patience is one of the foundations of the universe!

For example, the baby in the mother’s womb takes 9 months to grow. Plants and trees grow slowly. The sun rises and sets slowly. This is one of the laws of Allah in the universe. That is why it is very important in our religion.

The scholars have said that your soul is like the vehicle that is taking you to the afterlife, either to heaven or to hell, and what has control over this vehicle is your patience. If you do not have this patience, your soul will take you wherever it wishes and it will be out of your control....

A beautiful saying of the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) is,

The matter of the believer is amazing. All of his matters in his life are good, and this is only applicable to the believer. If a calamity befalls him, he is patient, and this is a good thing for him. If he receives a bounty, he thanks Allah, and this is a good thing for him.”

No one is like the believer. In all matters in his life he wins. If it’s a calamity and he is patient, he has won, and if it is a bounty and he thanks Allah, again he has won! ...

How can we increase our patience?

1) Know that this life is short.
2) Knowing that you belong to Allah, and to Him you shall return.
3) Knowing the rewards of heaven.
4) Being sure that Allah will lift the calamity, as Allah (SWT) said, “With hardship comes ease.”

http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles499.html - http://www.amrkhaled.net/articles/articles499.html



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 27 April 2008 at 3:56pm

Honesty in Monetary Dealings

Condemning those who cheat in business the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

"He who cheats is not of us. Deceitfulness and fraud are things that lead one to Hell."

The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) once came upon a heap of corn in the market of Medina and thrust his hand onto it. His fingers felt damp. On being asked, the trader replied that rain had fallen upon it. The Prophet (peace be upon him) observed,

"Why did you not then keep (the wet portion of) it above the dry corn, so that men may see it? He who deceives, is not one of us."

Thus traders who deceive by showing to customers a false sample or by concealing from them the defects of the article they offer for sale are not true Muslims in the judgment of the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) and, God-forbidding, they are going to end up in hell. Another tradition says:

"The seller must explain to the buyer the defects, if any, in the quality of the article offered for sale. Should this not be done, the seller will permanently be caught in the Wrath of Allah (according to another narrator the exact words, ‘he will always be cursed by the angels')."

In short, all manner of deceit and dishonesty in business is prohibited in Islam. It has been proclaimed to be an act worthy of unqualified condemnation. The Prophet (peace be upon him) has expressed his strong dislike for those who do so. He has said he will have nothing to do with them; they do not belong to him.

Likewise, bribery and usury, although might be practiced by mutual consent and agreement, are totally disallowed to Muslims and those who are guilty of them have been condemned squarely in the traditions.

http://www.islamfortoday.com/honesty.htm - http://www.islamfortoday.com/honesty.htm  



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Posted By: Ameera
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:53am

How can we increase our patience?

1) Know that this life is short.
2) Knowing that you belong to Allah, and to Him you shall return.
3) Knowing the rewards of heaven.
4) Being sure that Allah will lift the calamity, as Allah (SWT) said, “With hardship comes ease.”

May Allah make us of the patient ameen

Sabr is jameel
Patience is beautiful
and Allah loves beauty

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 02 May 2008 at 12:34am

Concealing the Faults and Weaknesses of Others

Avoiding harm to others and concealing the weakness of one's fellow human beings is a prominent theme of the moral teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah.

The message here is conveyed in a variety of forms, context and ideas, all of which are indicative of Islam's emphasis on the honour and dignity of the individual, and of his or her right to privacy safe from the encroachment of others.

Thus according to a hadith:

"If a person conceals the weakness of another in this world, Allah will conceal their weakness in the hereafter"

http://www.islamfortoday.com/conceal.htm - http://www.islamfortoday.com/conceal.htm



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 06 May 2008 at 12:16am

Wisdom and Calm

Responding to anger with anger and to abuse with abuse causes an escalation of the situation and also leads to pettiness and indignity.

Therefore, Islam calls for a realistic assessment of each situation on its own and suggests two different types of reactions: kindness, and not responding to abuse.

http://www.islamonline.net/english/introducingislam/Individual/article14.SHTML - http://www.islamonline.net/english/introducingislam/Individual/article14.SHTML



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 12:36am

Modesty

Allah's Messenger was reported as saying:

Modesty is a part of the teachings of the previous prophets, and anyone who lacks it is most likely to do whatever he likes.

The Prophet was also reported as saying:

Every religion has a character, and the character of Islam is modesty.

The Prophet lived a simple and modest life, both in Makkah, as a trader and the Messenger of Allah, and in Madinah, as the head of the state and Messenger of Allah. The change in his social status, from that of a trader in Makkah to the head of the state in Madinah, did not bring any change in his modest living. The Prophet was reported as saying:

Do not exalt me as the Christians have exalted Jesus son of Mary. I am just His servant, so call me Allah's Servant and Messenger.

The Prophet did not behave towards others as if he was better than them, nor did he spurn manual work. It was reported that the Prophet of Allah never disdained to go with a slave or a widow to help him or her in accomplishing tasks.

Others reported that the Prophet used to tidy up his house, tether the camels, feed the animals, take food with his servants, and help them in kneading dough and bringing provisions from the market. It was also reported that the Prophet of Allah used to visit the sick, attend funerals, ride on a donkey, and accept a slave's invitation for a meal. It was stated that the Prophet used to slow down his pace for the sake of the weak and also prayed for them.

http://muhammad.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/04.shtml - http://muhammad.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/04.shtml  



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 12:42pm
Giving Thanks To Allah
Being grateful is to render one’s thanks to someone who has shown favor, to express gratitude and to appreciate.

The concept of being grateful to Allah, on the other hand, is to grasp and express that every kind of grace and favor is granted exclusively by Allah. In the Qur’an, the opposite of being grateful is defined by the term “disbelief”, which is synonymous to being ungrateful. Only this definition indicates the importance attached to being grateful as a worship and the detrimental consequences it may have for a believer.

Gratefulness to Allah is one of the concepts mostly emphasized in the Qur'an. In almost 70 verses, the importance of rendering thanks to Allah is stated, the examples of those who are grateful and ungrateful are given and the end they face is related. The reason why so much importance is given to this concept is simply because it is a mere indication of one’s faith and affirmation of the unity of Allah.

http://www.themodernreligion.com/basic/charac/thanks.html - http://www.themodernreligion.com/basic/charac/thanks.html  



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 10 May 2008 at 11:33am

Charity: Values & Ethics in Action

It is important to understand the Islamic concept of charity has a wider application than that of charitable “work” and “service” in the conventional sense.

The Prophet said, “Doing justice between two people is charity; assisting a man upon his beast and lifting his baggage is charity; and pure, comforting words are charity; and answering a questioner with mildness is charity; and removing that which is inconvenience to wayfarers, such as thorns and stones, is a charity.” The simple act of “smiling in your brother’s face” is also charity.

http://www.islamonline.net/English/family/2006/05/article05.shtml - http://www.islamonline.net/English/family/2006/05/article05.shtml



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 14 May 2008 at 2:42pm

Perfecting One's Character

An excellent character cannot be attained without three conditions:

1. The foundation must be good. If one has a rough and dry nature, it will be hard for him to submit to this [excellence of character] through knowledge, will, or practice. On the other hand, a mild and smooth nature will be ready and willing to receive the plowing and the seeds [to prepare it for character excellence].

2. The soul must be strong and capable of conquering calls of laziness, transgression, and desire. Those matters contradict perfection, and souls which cannot defeat them will always be defeated and conquered.

3. [One must possess] a discerning knowledge of the truth of matters, enabling one to put them in the rightful position, and to distinguish between flash and cancer - between glass and jewels.

http://www.geocities.com/mutmainaa/tafakkur/perfect_char.html - http://www.geocities.com/mutmainaa/tafakkur/perfect_char.html



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 2:52pm
Modesty
 
Prophet Muhammad was a perfect model of modesty and humbleness. He never spoke loudly or in an unseemly manner.

In the market, he always passed by the people quietly with a smile. Whenever he heard anything undesirable in an assembly, he did not say anything out of respect for the people, but the color of his face showed his feelings, and the Companions became cautious.

http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/04.shtml - http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/04.shtml



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Posted By: scruggnut
Date Posted: 16 May 2008 at 11:31am

I'm confused...isn't "perfection" the term attributed to something godlike?  I thought that god was the only thing that could be perfect.

It would make more sense, i think, if you said that muhammad was the perfect example of human modesty and humbleness...but that's not what you wrote.


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 16 May 2008 at 11:44am
The Prophet, peace be upon him, was the perfect human model, as mentioned in the article
 
He set an ideal example for Muslims to follow ...
 
The details of his Sunnah, including his modesty and humbelness, gives Muslims this example
 
 


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Posted By: jana.z
Date Posted: 16 May 2008 at 11:44am
scruggs  dont you think thats a case of semantics?
 
i knew exactly what Al C intended when he wrote  that.
 
if you can admit it, he didnt write that the prophet, pbuh, was totally perfect.
 
he did write that he was a MODEL of perfection in regards to manners.
 
and according to merriem webster "model"  has this meaning.
 
"an example for imitation or emulation"
 
and the prophet, pbuh, did have exemplary manners which any of us should want to emulate.
 
 
other than that,  the learn about islam area is not an area for debate.  maybe you can start another topic about this in interreligious or something.
 
just suggesting.


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Posted By: scruggnut
Date Posted: 16 May 2008 at 11:46am
Originally posted by jana.z

scruggs  dont you think thats a case of semantics?
 
i knew exactly what Al C intended when he wrote  that.
 
if you can admit it, he didnt write that the prophet, pbuh, was totally perfect.
 
he did write that he was a MODEL of perfection in regards to manners.
 
and according to merriem webster "model"  has this meaning.
 
"an example for imitation or emulation"
 
and the prophet, pbuh, did have exemplary manners which any of us should want to emulate.
 
 
other than that,  the learn about islam area is not an area for debate.  maybe you can start another topic about this in interreligious or something.
 
just suggesting.
Wow, you guys are seriously defensive. 


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Posted By: jana.z
Date Posted: 16 May 2008 at 11:47am
here to serve and protect...........just like the police.

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Posted By: scruggnut
Date Posted: 16 May 2008 at 11:48am
Originally posted by Al-Cordoby

The Prophet, peace be upon him, was the perfect human model, as mentioned in the article
 
He set an ideal example for Muslims to follow ...
 
The details of his Sunnah, including his modesty and humbelness, gives Muslims this example
 
 
It never once said that he is the perfect "human" model.  It says that he is the perfect model.  And that isn't just a case of semantics, in my opinion.  But at least you weren't as defensive.


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 17 May 2008 at 11:37am

Forgiveness

It has been revealed in the Qur’an that forgiveness is a superior moral trait:

But if someone is steadfast and forgives, that is the most resolute course to follow.” (42:43)

For that reason, believers are forgiving, compassionate and tolerant people who, as revealed in the Qur’an, control their rage and pardon other people.” (3:134)

http://www.islamonline.net/english/science/2004/11/article02.shtml - http://www.islamonline.net/english/science/2004/11/article02.shtml



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 12:34am

Good Neighbours

Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:

"Jibreel (Angel Gabriel) has continued to strongly recommend me to be kind to my neighbor until I thought that he would make him among my heirs."

(Hadith in Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?c=Article_C&cid=1169717595534&pagename=Zone-English-Living_Shariah%2FLSELayout - Good-Neighborliness - IslamOnline.net - Living Sharia'h



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 5:34am
The Prophet's Patience
 
Throughout the period of his mission, Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) experienced all manners of difficulty.

Allah advises the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to be patient

So be patient in the face of what they say and glorify your Lord with praise before the rising of the sun and before it sets. (Quran 50:39)

Do not be grieved by what they say. All might belongs to Allah. He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing. (Quran 10:65)

Imam Al-Ghazali summed up the Prophet's treatment of those around him as follows:

  • Everyone thought that the Prophet honored him more. Whoever came to him could see his face.

  • He used to call his Companions by their epithets with honor, and he used to give an epithet to whoever had none.

  • He was very affectionate and kind in dealing with the people.

  • Nobody could speak loudly in his assembly.

The Prophet's human love, kind thought, and compassion, which turned those around him to true religion and warmed their hearts to faith, are that superior morality which all Muslims should seek to reproduce.

http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/05.shtml - http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/05.shtml



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 4:41pm

Muhammad's Love and Tolerance for Mankind

Prophet Muhammad was introduced in the Quran with these words:

And We have not sent you forth but as a mercy to mankind. (Quran 21:107)

This shows that his distinctive quality was that he was a blessing incarnate in his words and deeds.

According to a tradition recorded in a collection of hadiths, when Muhammad's opponents increased their persecution, his Companions asked him to curse them. In response, Muhammad replied:

I have not been sent to lay a curse upon humans, but rather to be a blessing to them.

His opponents continued to treat him and his Companions unjustly and cruelly, but he continued to pray for them.

Once he was so badly stoned by his enemies that he was bleeding all over his body. This happened when he went to Taif, where the Hijaz aristocracy used to while away their summer days. When he attempted to call them to Islam, instead of listening to his words of wisdom, they set the street urchins upon him, who kept chasing him till nightfall. Even at that point, when he was utterly exhausted and bleeding from head to foot, all he said was:

O my Lord, guide my people along the true path, as they are ignorant of the truth.

His heart was filled with intense love for all humankind irrespective of caste, creed, or color.

http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/07.shtml - http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/07.shtml



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Posted By: MedGirl
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 5:58pm
Subhanallah.

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 12:03am

The Prophet's Justice

In the Quran, Allah (God) commands believers to:

Be upholders of justice, bearing witness for Allah alone, even against yourselves or your parents and relatives. Whether they are rich or poor, Allah is well able to look after them. Do not follow your own desires and deviate from the truth. (Quran 4:135)

Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is a great example to all mankind with the rules he imposed on Muslims, his just and tolerant attitude towards those of other religions, languages, races, and tribes, and his way of not discriminating between rich and poor, but treating everybody equally.

http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/03.shtml - http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/03.shtml



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 30 May 2008 at 12:16am

Mercy and Compassion

Allah's Messenger was the kindest of men and he also excelled all others in courage and valor.

He was so kindhearted that his eyes brimmed with tears at the slightest sign of inhumanity.

  http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/01.shtml - http://mohammed.islamonline.net/English/His_Example/HisQualities/01.shtml



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Posted By: Ted CharlotteNC
Date Posted: 30 May 2008 at 10:53am
Thank you for the mercy and compassion link. The Prophet is one to follow as an example how to treat your animals.

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 30 May 2008 at 4:17pm
His mercy and compassion, peace be upon him, was to all what surrounded him, including animals
 
As you read in the article:
 
Muhammad forbade his Companions to let animals go hungry or thirsty, or to disturb or overburden them. He commended kindness to animals and putting them at ease as meritorious acts which could bring people nearer to Allah
 
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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 1:04am

The Prophet's Mercy Towards the Elderly

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

"If a young man honors an elderly on account of his age, Allah appoints someone to honor him in his old age."

The Prophet here advises the young of the Muslim society, who will be tomorrow's elderly, to honor the elderly. Continuous application of this Prophetic advice helps bridge the gap between generations and spreads an atmosphere of love and understanding between the young and the old. Consider here also the generalization in the Prophet's words: "If a young man honors an elderly;" the hadith requires honoring the elderly regardless of their color or religion ...

A Sign of Reverence for Allah

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

"It is out of reverence to Allah to respect the white-headed (aged) Muslim." 

The hadith implies all kinds of respect and care for the elderly: Health care, psychological care, social care, economic care, ending illiteracy, providing education, and other forms of care that the international community calls for today.

In one hadith, the Prophet disavows those who do not venerate the elderly and considers them alien to the Muslim society:

"He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young ones and esteem to our elderly."

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 09 July 2008 at 12:08am

Taking Extra Care of Parents

The priority Islam gives to parents is the highest of all other priorities
 
Why?
 
Being dutiful to parents is the door to Allah's Mercy and Love, and the main door to Jannah (Paradise)
 
From Allah's Mercy, He put the love of sons and daughters in the hearts of parents. This love and care make a mother wake up in the middle of the night to take care of her child, and despite being tired she would stay up all night making sure her child is ok
 
How do we repay that debt?
 
In the same way that parents took care of their children when they were young and weak, it's their turn when they are strong to take care of their parents especially when they are elderly and weak
 
A man came to Allah's Apostle and said,

"O Allah's Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?"

The Prophet said, "Your mother."

The man said. "Who is next?"

The Prophet said, "Your mother."

The man further said, "Who is next?"

The Prophet said, "Your mother."

The man asked for the fourth time, "Who is next?"

The Prophet said, "Your father. "

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Posted By: keithnurse
Date Posted: 13 July 2008 at 10:08pm
I am wondering what Muhammed says about duties of an adult toward a parent who abandoned him as a child?


Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 13 July 2008 at 11:39pm
No matter what parents did to their children, even if they were unjust and abandoned them at a young age, the teachings of Islam is to be dutiful towards them
 
Ibn 'Abbas said, "If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him." He was asked, "Even if they wrong him?" "Even if they wrong him" he replied
 
(Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, by Imam Al-Bukhari)
 
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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 11 September 2008 at 4:44pm

Visiting Those who are Ill

An important Sunnah (i.e tradition of the Prophet) is to visit those who are ill

In a caring society, it is a Sunnah to care for those who are ill, to remember them in prayers and make them know they are not on their own
 
It also has a great reward, as mentioned in this hadith:
 
Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:
 
There is no man who visits a sick person early in the morning but seventy thousand angels send blessings upon him until evening comes, and he will have a garden in Paradise.
 
If he visits him in the evening, seventy thousand angels send blessings upon him until morning comes, and he will have a garden in Paradise
 
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Date Posted: 28 November 2008 at 7:45am

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 21 March 2009 at 11:04pm

Truthfulness… Staircase to Heaven

The Prophet, peace be upon him, said:

Maintain truthfulness, for truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Heaven; A man continues to maintain truthfulness until he is recorded in Allah's book as truthful.

Refrain from lying, for lying leads to blatant evil, and evil leads to Hell; A man continues to lie until he is recorded in Allah's book as a liar."

(Hadith in Al-Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawud, and At-Tirmidhi)

Certain virtues are highly valued in all societies, one of which is truthfulness. Islam recognizes that other religions and communities attach great importance to such virtues. Islam also endorses such virtues and lays strong emphasis on them. Indeed, the Prophet said, "I have been sent with my message in order to complement the best of virtues" (Ahmad and Al-Hakim). In this definition of his message, the Prophet emphasizes that virtues that are acceptable to common sense exist in all societies and are inevitably upheld by all communities. What Islam does is to complement and perfect them.

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 23 March 2009 at 2:36pm

Being Considerate

One of the significant characteristics of the believers is their refusal to fall prey to their own greed. Believers who overcome their vain desires will naturally be caring and considerate towards other believers. ...

Giving other believers preference is not confined to offering them something in physical terms. Brotherhood is also imparted with thoughtfulness. Believers must consider their brethren's needs and problems more than their own.

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 1:14pm
Muslim's Manners and Duties
 
Surat Al-Israa' was revealed to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) in Makkah after his Night Journey from Makkah to Jerusalem.
 
In verses 23–39 of this surah, Allah mentions some basic commitments of Muslims. Without fulfilling these commitments, no individual or group can succeed. Muslims have to live by these values and should invite humanity to these principles. These principles are not limited to one race, tribe, or group; they are universal in their scope and application. ...
 
These principles are as follows:

1. To worship Allah alone

2. To be respectful and kind to parents

3. To be good to relatives, to the poor, and to the travelers
 
4. To be careful with money and not waste resources

5. To take good care of children

6. To steer clear of adultery and illicit relations

7. To respect every life
 
8. To take care of the orphans
 
9. To fulfill promises and commitments
 
10. To be honest in business dealings and not cheat in weight or measurement
 
11. To do things with knowledge and not follow hearsay or act on half knowledge
 
12. To be humble and have no arrogance

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:30pm

The Tongue and the Heart

"Whoever believes in Allah and the last day should speak good or keep silent" - Muhammad (peace be upon him)

The tongue expresses what is in the heart. If a persons heart is good you see it in their saying.

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 11:14am

The Prophet's Mercy Towards the Elderly

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

"If a young man honors an elderly on account of his age, Allah appoints someone to honor him in his old age."

The Prophet here advises the young of the Muslim society, who will be tomorrow's elderly, to honor the elderly. Continuous application of this Prophetic advice helps bridge the gap between generations and spreads an atmosphere of love and understanding between the young and the old. Consider here also the generalization in the Prophet's words: "If a young man honors an elderly;" the hadith requires honoring the elderly regardless of their color or religion ...

A Sign of Reverence for Allah

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

"It is out of reverence to Allah to respect the white-headed (aged) Muslim." 

The hadith implies all kinds of respect and care for the elderly: Health care, psychological care, social care, economic care, ending illiteracy, providing education, and other forms of care that the international community calls for today.

In one hadith, the Prophet disavows those who do not venerate the elderly and considers them alien to the Muslim society:

"He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young ones and esteem to our elderly."

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 28 March 2009 at 6:06am

The Hospitality of The Prophet, peace be upon him

Muhammad was also a very hospitable person, even before he was raised to the status of a Prophet. Nobody ever went away from him empty handed. He used to feed the poor, the needy, the widows and orphans and was very popular among the people of Makkah. In Madinah, his hospitality knew no bounds and his house was open to all, rich and poor, friend and foe. All came to him and were treated very generously. People used to come in large numbers from all directions, and he entertained them all and served them personally.

His hospitality was not confined to Muslims alone, but was extended to all human beings, irrespective of status or creed. Polytheists and Jews were his guests and he entertained them all, without any distinction. When a Christian deputation came from Abyssinia, he kept them in his house and served them personally throughout their stay. Once when a polytheist was his guest, Muhammad gave him the milk of one goat and he drank it all. The Prophet gave him the milk of a second goat, which he drank as well. In this way the guest drank the milk of seven goats but Muhammad did not stop offering him milk until he was satisfied.

Sometimes it so happened that the guests ate all that was available in the house and nothing was left for the Prophet and his family to eat, so they had to go without food that night. This was not an unusual occurrence in the Prophet's house. ...

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 10:29pm

Prophet’s Love and Tolerance for Mankind

According to a tradition recorded in the Sahih of Imam Muslim, when the Prophet’s opponents greatly increased their persecution, his Companions asked him to curse them. At this the Prophet replied, “I have not been sent to lay a curse upon men but to be a blessing to them.” His opponents continued to treat him and his Companions unjustly and cruelly, but he always prayed for them.

Once he was so badly stoned by his enemies that the blood began to spurt from all over his body. This happened when he went to Ta’if, where the Hijaz aristocracy used to while away their summer days. When he attempted to call them to Islam, instead of listening to his words of wisdom, they set the street urchins upon him, who kept chasing him till nightfall. Even at that point, when he was utterly exhausted and bleeding from head to foot, all he said was, “O my Lord, guide my people along the true path, as they are ignorant of the truth.”

His heart was filled with intense love for all human kind irrespective of caste, creed, or color. Once he advised his Companions to regard all people as their brothers and sisters. He added, “You are all Adam’s offspring and Adam was born of clay.”

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 1:38pm

Visiting Those who are Ill

An important Sunnah (i.e tradition of theProphet) is to visit those who are ill

In a caring society, it is a Sunnah to care for those who are ill, to remember them in prayers and make them know they are not on their own
 
It also has a great reward, as mentioned in this hadith:
 
Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:
 
There is no man who visits a sick person early in the morning but seventy thousand angels send blessings upon him until evening comes, and he will have a garden in Paradise.
 
If he visits him in the evening, seventy thousand angels send blessings upon him until morning comes, and he will have a garden in Paradise
 
(Hadith in Al-Tirmidhi)
 


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 10:55pm

Outstanding Forgiveness of the Prophet

Another great quality of Muhammad was that he never took revenge on anyone for personal reasons and always forgave even his firm enemies.

His wife `A'ishah reported that Allah's Messenger was not unseemly or obscene in his speech, nor was he loud-voiced in the streets, nor did he return evil for evil, but he would forgive and pardon.

The people of the Quraysh rebuked him, taunted and mocked at him, beat him and abused him. They tried to kill him and when he escaped to Madinah, they waged many wars against him. Yet when he entered Makkah victorious with an army of 10000, he did not take revenge on anyone.

He forgave all...

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 03 April 2009 at 11:02am

Keeping Good Relations with Family and Relatives

Strong family ties are highly encouraged in Islam

Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:

"Whoever is pleased that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin

(Hadith in Sahih Al-Bukhari)
 


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 8:48am

The Beauty of Patience

Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:

The matter of the believer is amazing. All of his matters in his life are good, and this is only applicable to the believer.

If a calamity befalls him, he is patient, and this is a good thing for him.

If he receives a bounty, he thanks Allah, and this is a good thing for him.”



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 07 April 2009 at 1:18pm

Proper use of the Gift of Speech

"Whosoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let such a person speak good or remain silent."  Prophet Muhammad

Islamic teachings demand that when we speak we should:

- Control our tongues

- Employ speech only for good purpose

- Be truthful

- Avoid vain talk

- Have our facts straight 

- Exercise Propriety 

- Say what we mean and mean what we say

- Be conscious of the consequence of our words

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 10 April 2009 at 7:01am

Honoring the Elderly

The Messenger of God (may peace be upon him) said:

"A young man never honors an old man due to age but that God sends someone to honor him when he reaches that age"

(The above Hadith was narrated by At-Tirmidhi)



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 11 April 2009 at 11:00am

Taking Extra Care of Parents

The priority Islam gives to parents is the highest of all other priorities
 
Why?
 
Being dutiful to parents is the door to Allah's Mercy and Love, and the main door to Jannah (Paradise)
 
From Allah's Mercy, He put the love of sons and daughters in the hearts of parents. This love and care make a mother wake up in the middle of the night to take care of her child, and despite being tired she would stay up all night making sure her child is ok
 
How do we repay that debt?
 
In the same way that parents took care of their children when they were young and weak, it's their turn when they are strong to take care of their parents especially when they are elderly and weak
 
A man came to Allah's Apostle and said,

"O Allah's Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?"

The Prophet said, "Your mother."

The man said. "Who is next?"

The Prophet said, "Your mother."

The man further said, "Who is next?"

The Prophet said, "Your mother."

The man asked for the fourth time, "Who is next?"

The Prophet said, "Your father. "

(Hadith in Sahih Al-Bukhari)


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 12 April 2009 at 1:48pm
Prophet Muhammad: A Tender Grandfather

That has always taken my heart! Whenever I think of how busy and important a man he was, and yet had time space and emotions to spare for his grandchildren. The idea that when he stood on the podium, giving the Friday sermon, he simply interrupted his speech in front of the Muslim nation audience — at the time — and went down the podium to pick up his grandson, is always startling from my point of view.

The fact that he would keep carrying this grandson throughout his speech is again startling. I mean, he was the spiritual, social and political leader of the nation! What would any of our grandfathers have done if we simply burst into any of their meetings? I wonder

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 14 April 2009 at 1:15pm

http://www.islamonline.net/English/family/2004/10/article01.shtml#_Index - How to Keep Hope Alive

The balancing emotions of hope versus fear, together with the overwhelming mercy, compassion, and kindness of Allah Most High, do not mean that we can do as we like. On the contrary, this should inspire us to strive to do as much good as possible and then place our trust in Allah Most High.

Hope comes from an expectation that one has followed the right path to the best of one’s abilities. There are numerous verses in the Qur’an that enjoin the believer towards good and abstaining from sin. It is only by rehearsing the Book and implementing the guidelines that one is then in a position to have one’s hopes raised to awaiting a pleasing reward—as you reap so shall you sow:

[Those who rehearse the Book of Allah, establish regular Prayer and spend (in charity) out of what We have provided for them secretly and openly, hope for a commerce that will never fail.] (Fatir 35:29)

The above verse makes it quite clear that we first have to rehearse the Book, establish regular Prayer, and spend in charity, and then only hope for a good outcome. Furthermore, the best example to follow is that shown to us by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him); It is through following the Qur’an and the Sunnah that our hope in Allah Most High’s mercy and kindness is increased:

[Ye have indeed in the Apostle of Allah a beautiful pattern (of conduct) for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Final Day and who engages much in the praise of Allah.] (Al-Ahzab 33:21)

Furthermore, Allah Most High says:

[Whosoever follows My Guidance, on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.] (Al-Baqarah 2:38)

The religion of Islam is a religion of peace. It is a religion of hope. It inspires hope in the believer and not despair:

[Allah made it but a message of hope for you.] (Aal `Imran 3:126)

Furthermore, Islam is a perfect religion. We have been blessed with the two sources, the Qur’an and the Sunnah. These two sources of knowledge and wisdom shed light in our darkest hours. They bring a ray, a glimmer, a floodlight of hope when there are only despair and confusion. No other source is required or necessary for all eternity to come, for the religion has been perfected:

[This day have I perfected your religion for you, completed My favor upon you and have chosen for you Islam as your religion.] (Al-Ma’idah 5:4)

 



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 17 April 2009 at 1:31pm

Do Not Expect Gratitude From Anyone

From among the ever-repeating pages of history is a story of a father and his son: The father raised his son, fed him, clothed him, and taught him; he would stay up nights so that his son could sleep, stay hungry so that his son could eat, and toil so that his son could feel comfort. And when the son became older and stronger, he rewarded his father with disobedience, disrespect, and contempt.

So, be at peace if you are requited with ungratefulness for the good you have done. Rejoice in your knowledge that you will be rewarded from the One Who has unlimited treasures at His disposal. This is not to say that you should refrain from performing acts of kindness toward others; the point is that you should be mentally prepared for ingratitude.

Perform acts of charity seeking solely Allah's pleasure, because with this attitude you will assuredly be successful. The ungrateful person cannot really harm you. Praise Allah that that person is the transgressor and that you are the obedient servant. Also, remember that the hand that gives is better than the hand that receives

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 25 April 2009 at 11:44am

Etiquettes of the Road

A roadway is a public thoroughfare. Everyone has the right to use it without being abused or hindered by others. Furthermore, if someone needs aid or assistance, he should receive it from his brethren without them expecting for their assistance any compensation. For this reason, Islam has set down certain etiquettes that those using the road should observe. They are as follows:

1. Modesty in one’s manner of walking: This means that a person should walk in a relaxed manner. Allah says:
- The servants of the Beneficent are those who walk on the Earth in humility and composure, and when ignorant people address them, they reply with words of peace.

- And walk not on Earth with conceit and arrogance. Verily, you will neither rend open the Earth nor reach the mountains in stature.
2. Lowering one’s gaze from forbidden things: A man, for instance, should not look at women who are not members of his family. Allah says:
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and protect their private parts (from engaging in unlawful sexual activities)… and tell the believing women to lower their gaze and protect their private parts (from unlawful sexual activities).
Looking at others in such a way infringes upon their dignity and helps to instigate acts of fornication and adultery.

3. Greeting others with peace: This applies to those who one knows as well as those who one does not know. It is related in Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim from `Abd Allah b. `Amr b. al-`As that a man asked the Prophet (peace be upon him): “What manifestation of Islam is best?” Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) replied: “To feed the poor and to greet with peace both those you know and those that you do not know.”

4. Maintaining the cleanliness of the road: Garbage should not be thrown in the road, especially when it can cause harm or injury to others or cause accidents. Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “There should be no harm nor causing of harm.” Quite the contrary, a Muslim is expected to remove anything harmful that he might find in the road, whether it be a rock, a thorn, or anything else. It is related in Sahîh al-Bukhârî that Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “There are over seventy branches of faith, the greatest of which is saying ‘There is no god but Allah’ and the least of which is removing an obstacle from the road.”

5. Avoiding danger: A person should apply caution when using the road and avoid doing anything that might harm another person, an animal, or a vehicle. This can be taken from the general meaning of the following verse:
And do not throw your own selves into destruction.

A Muslim must repel dangers from others as well. He must warn them about hazards and stop them from doing dangerous acts if he can. This is part of his duty of enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong. Abű Sa`îd al-Khudrî relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Do not sit on the roadways.” The people said: “O Messenger of Allah, we have no option but to be on the roads and speak to each other therein.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) then said: “If you must assemble on the roads, then give the road its rights.” They asked: “What are the rights of the road?” He said: “Lowering one’s gaze, preventing injury, returning the greeting of peace, enjoining what is right, and forbidding what is wrong.”

http://www.islamtoday.com/discover_islam.cfm?cat_id=6&sub_cat_id=56 - http://www.islamtoday.com/discover_islam.cfm?cat_id=6&sub_cat_id=56



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 10 May 2009 at 10:14pm

Islam and the concept of friendship

Humans are social creatures by nature; they're always in need of friends and companions. Most of our lives depend on interaction with others. Strong individuals are the core of a strong community, something that Muslims should always strive for.

We al know that Allah the Most High has brought us to life in order to test us. Thus we are here for a relatively short period of time and that we shall meet Allah one Day, so we need to use our present life for what is best for us in the hereafter. Once we know our purpose and our goal in life, we should seek ways to achieve them so as to benefit our own selves.

In an authentic Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:

"A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend."

Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) who has the most noble character and dealings with fellow humans gave us a very clear and simple message and advice in regard to friendship.

How should we choose our friends?

We should choose the friend that believes and abide by our religion (Islam) and gives great respect to what Allah and Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) has ordered us. And we should stay away from that who is not well mannered and gives no attention to what Islam is about or what pleases or displeases Allah, for he'll surely affect us negatively. There is no good in the companion drowns us in sins and displeasing Allah.

The bases for the actions of those who follow the evil ways are corrupt; their actions are built upon misguidance and deviation. Their deeds are worthless to them as Allah said:

"And We will proceed to what they have done of deeds, so We shall render them to scattered floating dust." Qur'an (25:23)

Their actions, even if we see them as righteous and noble are of no value to them, so how can they be useful to us?

Good friends are those who share their companions both happiness and sadness. If we share our feelings with the wrong-doers whose actions are worthless and based on corruption, then we are following the same ways and standards as they are, and we'll end up being as corrupted as they are, and then we're in a big trouble, how can we face Allah's dissatisfaction and displeasure?!

Instead of making friends with the misguided ones we should befriend the righteous, yet treat the rest in a gracious and just manner. Staying at sufficient distance is necessary; yet treating everybody in a noble and kind manner is required.

In another Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:

"The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith�s bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."

When choosing our friends we should ask ourselves first: Are they going to help us achieve the purpose for which we were brought to life? or will they take us away from it? Will they desire for us Allah's pleasure or is that completely irrelevant to them and not their concern at all? Are they leading us to Paradise or to the Hell?

Allah says in the Qur'an:

"O you who believe! Take care of your own selves. If you follow the right guidance and enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong no hurt can come to you from those who are in error. The return of you all is to Allah, then He will inform you about (all) that which you used to do." Qur'an (5:105)

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 06 October 2009 at 10:03am

Perfecting Your Manners

There is no limit to doing good to others. Those who have dedicated themselves to the good of humanity can be so altruistic that they will even sacrifice their lives for others. However, such altruism is a great virtue only if it originates in sincerity and purity of intention, and if it does not define the "others" by racial preferences.

Our humanity and nobility are directly proportional to our closeness to our friends and our maintenance of these friendships. Talking of nobility and kindness without expressing warmth and intimacy in relationships is mere assertion. Doing good in return only for good received, or sometimes ceasing to do good to others in order to punish them, implies moral imperfection and immaturity.

It is a sign of great generosity and goodness to others if you ignore some of their faults, improprieties, or bad manners, and tolerate their imperfections ........

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 17 October 2009 at 11:45am

Honesty

It is of the manners of the high path of Islam to be honest when one speaks.

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said,

“Honesty certainly leads to goodness, and goodness leads to paradise. Truly, a man keeps speaking the truth until he is inscribed as being true through and through.

And lying leads to going wrong, and going wrong leads to hell. Truly, a man lies and lies until he is inscribed as being a liar through and through”

(Hadith in Sahih Muslim)

 



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 28 October 2009 at 7:59pm

Courtesy and Politeness

First: What is the meaning of courtesy and politeness?

I mean politeness in dealing with people, I mean a sensitive spirit, I mean a pretty soul, I mean beauty, cleanliness, order, I mean the delicate sensation and perceptive soul that discerns what is wrong through a glance or a smile.

Politeness with people

Visiting the ill: Do not stay for a long time when visiting the ill in order not to make him tired, except if he was comfortable with your stay. Yet, generally we must not stay for a long time.

Four people went to visit Imam Abu-Hanifa when he was ill and they stayed for a long time. He said, “Please go, Allah has cured me”.

Courtesy and Politeness with Neighbors

- The Prophet (peace be upon him), in his Sunnah, teaches us that if one brings home a special kind of food or fruits, and the neighbors see it; then he should offer them some. You should not hide it, but at the same time do not show off. If they see it then you should offer them some of it. A Muslim should not come home carrying a bag of apples, for example, and give his children some in front of his neighbors in order to show them that he is well off. This is not courteous. He must also offer his neighbours some apples out of courtesy.

The following story is an example of being patient and courteous with one's neighbours:

- Imam Abu-Hanifa liked to perform Qiyyam (night prayer); and his next door neighbor was a corrupt young man who used to return home at night completely drunk, and keeps on singing, which disturbed the Imam during his prayer. The Imam knew that if he tried to advise him when he is in this state, he is not going to listen. The young man used to sing, “They let me down, they let me down.”

One night, the Imam did not hear his voice, so he inquired about him, and he was told that the police caught him because he was drunk. The Imam decided to call him to Islam in an indirect way. He went to the police and told them, “Would you let him go for my sake?” They replied that he is always drunk. However, the Imam insisted until they let him go. The Imam made him ride behind him on his mule, and he stayed quiet all the way home. When they arrived home, he asked him, “Have we let you down, chap?” He replied, “No, by Allah, I swear by Allah that I will never go back to drinking (wine) again.” Do you see the effect of gentleness and courtesy with people?

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 20 November 2009 at 12:51am

Smiling Is Charity

Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said:

“And your smiling in the face of your brother is charity, your removing of stones, thorns, and bones from people’s paths is charity, and your guiding a man gone astray in the world is charity for you.”

Any person who comes across this beautiful saying must pause for some moments to consider some of its meanings and implications. The hadith has two main concerns:

  1. Awakening the springs of goodness in the human heart
  2. Strengthening the society with the bond of love, affection, and brotherhood

Charity, as it is traditionally understood, consists of money or various objects given by the rich to help the poor or by the strong to help the weak. Charity, according to this understanding, is extremely narrow and its effects on the life of society are limited. The saying of the Prophet, however, takes charity out of this narrow, physical meaning and on to a spiritual plane that opens up a vast and limitless world by emphasizing that every good is charity. ........

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?c=Article_C&cid=1158658505497&pagename=Zone-English-Living_Shariah%2FLSELayout - http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?c=Article_C&cid=1158658505497&pagename=Zone-English-Living_Shariah%2FLSELayout



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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 05 December 2009 at 12:57am

Adab - Courtesy and Respect

Adab is courtesy, respect, appropriateness. Adab is not formality; it helps to create the context in which we develop our humanness. Every situation and relationship has its proper adab: between students on the path, in relation to family members and elders, in relation to one's teacher. Every level of being also has its adab, including coming into the presence of Truth (Al-Haqq). 

The model of adab in the Islamic tradition is the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing upon him), who said: "None of you will have authentic faith until your hearts are made right, nor will your hearts be made right until your tongues be made right, nor will your tongues be made right until your actions be made right." 

As one begins to become aware of the benefits and possibilities of adab it becomes strikingly clear how much has been lost in contemporary culture in the name of some hypothetical personal freedom and individuality. 

When a student in the quest of Devine knowledge steps over the threshold into a house of God, he leaves the "world" and its concerns behind. The house of God is the school of love. We come here to observe, listen, and learn, and to practice service -- not to pursue the ambitions of the world, not to satisfy or promote our own egos, nor to consume exciting "spiritual" experiences ........

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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 06 December 2009 at 5:06pm

Kindness without discrimination

It is easier being kind to those whom we consider deserving of our sympathy, but true kindness means practicing generosity of heart without discrimination. We may find ourselves wrestling with the apparent irregularity of being kind to those who have not treated us well; where our kindness may not stop the recipient from being hostile or inconsiderate towards us. It is when we display kindness in these circumstances that we present the best of ourselves. How magnanimous the mercy of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) at the conquest of Makkah when he readily forgave the Makkans who had for years persecuted, excommunicated and exiled him, his family and followers. Here was an expression of kindness from a merciful one that emanated from a forgiving and a loving heart. 

Practicing daily acts of kindness is an essential element of fruitful living. Sharing kindness with others is the most rewarding and fulfilling act one can engage in. There is nothing more comforting, more gratifying for a conscientious soul than knowing that through a kind word, a helpful act, a cheerful smile you made someone's burden a little lighter, a day little brighter or situation a little more pleasant. A kind and generous act will go further, mean more, last longer and be remembered long after the prism of politeness or complexion of courtesy has faded away.

If kindness has no effect on the recipient, it at least benefits the bestower; so kindness is never wasted. Do remember however that one cannot do an act of kindness too soon, for one never knows how soon it will be too late. Kindness is indeed a most noble quality, a characteristic of the Supreme Being. The Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said: "Allah is kind and loves kindness in every matter".

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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 31 December 2009 at 12:53am

The Prophet's Truthfulness

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was known as a truthful person even before Islam.

The people of Makkah, the unbelievers included, called him As-Sadiq Al-Amin (the truthful and trustworthy). Even his enemies did not accuse him of lying after he proclaimed Prophethood ......

Truthfulness is always in the interest of the truthful .......

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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 31 December 2009 at 1:37pm
Excellence of meeting with a smiling Countenance and Politeness in Speech
 
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "It is also charity to utter a good word.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary:  In Islam, it is not spending money alone that counts as charity; talking to somebody in a decent way also comes in the same context.

Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Do not disdain a good deed, (no matter how small it may seem) even if it is your meeting with your (Muslim) brother with a cheerful face.''
[Muslim].

Commentary:  Every deed approved by the Shari`ah is considered good and rewarding. Howsoever seemingly small people may consider it, it must not be looked at from a highbrow angle. Even to meet people cheerfully is one of the Islamic virtues, though it may appear quite insignificant to some people.

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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 11 January 2010 at 1:53pm
"Muslims Character" - Muhammad Al-Ghazali (ra)
 
Al-Furqan (The Criterion) Sura 25: Verse 20 (partial)

http://quran.al-islam.com/Targama/DispTargam.asp?nType=1&nSeg=0&l=eng&nSora=30&nAya=20&t=eng"> "We have made some of you as trials for others. Will you have patience? For Allah is One Who see" (all things)."

If wealth and property are amassed as a result of the capabilities and striving of the people, then some people amass lot of riches and some people get only the bare necessities. And this cannot be objected to. The question regarding misfortune and ungratefulness arise when these people live a life away from the society, when they are concerned only with meeting their own personal needs and for providing for their own pleasures and luxuries, when Allah has caused the people to live together, and has declared this togetherness of theirs, instead of differences in their circumstances, a severe trial for them. This provides a test for their faith and an opportunity for proving their worth.

A community can be successful in this field of life only when the relationship among its individuals is strong and firm. No individual of the community should be so deprived that he may be facing a life of starvation and no wealthy man of the community should be so greedy that he may be spending his wealth only for his own personal pleasures and luxuries.

To achieve this high objectives Islam has framed very strong laws. Peoples' hearts have been prepared to indulge in righteous and virtuous deeds, and they have been tempted to co-operate with each other, help each other and act righteously. It explained to them that the benefit of spending in the cause of Allah is not only derived by the poor and needy persons but the givers of charity also achieve the invaluable riches of peace and satisfaction; their hearts are protected from the earthquakes of rancour and jealousy, and they are saved from the adverse consequences of selfishness and narrow- mindedness.


 



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 1:27pm
Excellence in Worship
 
Prophet Muhammad speaks about worshipping God as if we can see Him, and knowing, believing, and feeling in one's innermost core that He can see us at all times. This is about checking our intentions before every action, our conscience being active at all times, being humble and aware of our equality in front of God,  having the utmost trust in God's power and mercy, and seeking help from Him and Him alone.

 

Excellence in worship is also achieved through excellence in action, for in Islam, worship goes beyond rituals and includes regular daily actions, if done with the proper intention. That is why ihsan can be pursued through many different channels.

 

Ihsan also means doing good to one's self and doing good to people, and it means not being attached to material things in this world, or as the Prophet said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a wayfarer." (Al-Bukhari)

 

Living one's life as if one can see Allah means being in a constant state of awareness that all one's actions are being observed and recorded. It is a special state of God-consciousness that prevents us from doing wrong and causes us to aim for excellence in everything that we do.

 

It is to ask yourself: Would you throw that piece of garbage on the street if you could actually see God in front of you right now? If you could see Him watching you, would you ignore that poor person on the corner, or would you stop to give that person some charity? Would you cheat? Would you lie? Would you hurt others?

 

Doing good in this world is given such a high priority in the Quran that in many different parts the Quran describes the rewards of those that do good, and they are given the title of those who have achieved ihsan. The Quran says what means:

 

[And do good. Truly Allah loves those who achieve ihsan.] (Al-Baqarah 2:195)

 

[For those who do good in this world there is good, and the home of the hereafter will be better. And excellent indeed will be the home of the pious.] (An-Nahl 16:30)

 

[For those who have done good is the best reward and even more. Neither darkness nor dust nor any humiliating disgrace shall cover their faces. They are the dwellers of Paradise, they will abide therein forever.] (Yunus 10:26)

 


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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 13 January 2010 at 1:27pm

Spreading Salams: A Source of Love among Muslims

The Prophet (peace be upon him) has taught Muslims the most unique and beautiful method of greeting each other: "By Him in Whose Hand is my life, you shall not enter paradise until you believe. And you will not believe until you love each other. And, shall I not lead you to something, that if you did, you would begin to love each other? Spread the greeting of Salam among yourselves!"

Therefore, if someone greets you, "As-Salamu Alaykum" (peace be with you), either you respond with similar words, "Wa-Alaykum as-Salam" (peace be with you too), or with something more, "Wa-Alaykum as-Salam wa-Rahmatullahi wa-Barakatuh" (peace, and the Mercy of Allah, and His Blessings be upon you). Hassan (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "While initiating the Salam is strongly recommended, its reply is obligatory (wajib)."

Imam al-Shafi reported that Abdullah ibn Umar (a well-known companion of the Prophet) used to sometimes visit the market place with no intention other than to say Salam to people there.

Majid Al-Daryabadi quotes a British woman, fascinated by this unique tradition of extending Salams among Muslims: "these gentle words of greeting each other as they pass, is a music to the ear. It is amusing to watch the dexterity with which two friends will sustain a competition in greeting - each endeavoring to outdo the other in compliments... master and the servant, the rich and the poor, the learned and the unlettered, greet each other with the same dignity on both sides, leading to no loss of self-respect to either."


"Tafsir Ishraq Al-Ma'ani", Sayyid Iqbal Zaheer



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 5:30pm

Excellence in Cordial Relations

Ihsan adds beauty and excellence to cordial relations. No relationship can be established on measuring constantly whether one has fulfilled one's obligations. One should not be very particular about one's own rights, with a view to ensuring that one gets all that is one's due. Rather, one should be ever-ready to do favours for others. A strictly business-like relationship may work. However, this would be lacking in mutual love, gratitude, sacrifice, sincerity and warmth, which are so important in life. Doing good stands for excellent conduct, generous dealings, a sympathetic attitude, good manners, forgiveness and making allowances. One should be prepared to accept less than one's due and give others more than what they deserve. This point is eloquently made in the following hadith:

"O Allah! Let me maintain ties with him who severs these. Let me grant him his due that deprives me of what is due to me. Let me forgive him who wrongs me." (Mishkat)

In other words this character trait demands that one should give others over and above what is their due. More importantly, one should do good to him who wrongs one. For true believers are those who repulse evil with their good deeds...


Inter Personal Relations- Khurram Murad



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 2:48pm

General Supplication

What one wants for oneself, one must also desire for others. Islam induces man to share the good things of life with his fellowmen as his brothers. Islam teaches us that the more general a supplication is, the more likelihood there is of its acceptance. There are many sayings of the Prophet, peace be upon him, that corroborate this.

When a Muslim supplicates for others and wishes for them what he wishes for himself, and continues to do so over a long period, it brings him nearer to Allah as well to his fellowmen. And he gradually attains to a state where his likes and dislikes merge and become one with the pleasure and displeasure of Allah. In addition, he is saved from moral diseases, like malice, envy, spite, and hatred of others. Good and healthy feelings eventually become the hall-mark of his social behaviour, so he is eager to help others and overlook their faults and is ready to forgive them.


Freedom and Responsibility in Quranic Perspective - Hasan Al-Anani



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 1:47pm
Islamic Manners in Discussions and Debates

If you have trouble understanding some of what has been said in a meeting, hold your questions until the speaker has finished. Gently, politely, and with proper introduction, ask for clarification. Do not interrupt a person's speech. Never raise your voice with the question, or be blunt to draw attention to yourself. This is contrary to the proper manner of listening, and stirs up contempt. However, this is not the rule if the meeting is for studying and learning. In such a case, asking questions and initiating a discussion is desirable if conducted respectfully and tactfully and only after the speaker finishes. The Khalifah Al-Mamun said: "Discussion entrenches knowledge much more than mere agreement."

Never interrupt a speaker. Never rush to answer if you are not very confident of your answer. Never argue about something you do not know. Never argue for the sake of argument. Never show arrogance with your counterparts especially if they hold a different opinion. Do not switch the argument to belittle your opponent's views. If their misunderstanding becomes evident, do not rebuke or scold them. Be modest and kind. A poet once said:

Who could get me a friend?
Who if I offend will remain calm
Who would listen intently to what I have to say
When he knows it better than I do


Islamic Manners- Abdul Fattah Abu Ghudda



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 23 January 2010 at 8:49am

Allah's Family

The principle to accord a humane treatment to people and avoid hurting them is not restricted to Muslims. It is only that such behaviour has been specially stressed in regards to Muslims. All of Allah's creatures are "His family", so much so that animals too are included within this fold.

To keep a camel hungry or weigh it down with unbearable load, not to give it enough rest, or to slaughter an animal within sight of another, or to us a blunt knife for slaughtering an animal or to steal a bird's young chick from its nest, or to put an anthill to fire are all forbidden acts.

When such are the guidelines for the treatment of animals, you can well imagine what are the rights of human beings, whether they be sinful Muslims or non-Muslims.

 Khurram Murad



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 26 January 2010 at 2:16pm

Perfect Equilibrium

It does not befit a Muslim to overburden himself with work to the extent that it violates the rights of his soul, the rights of his family, and the rights of his society. This applies even if such exertion is in the worship of Allah, be it by way of fasting, Salah, sacrifice, or abstinence.

It is for this reason that the Prophet, peace be upon him, when he saw his Companions ever congregating behind him for the night vigil, said to them: "Take from work what you can, for verily Allah does not stop (rewarding you) until you get fed up (in worshipping Him); and verily the most beloved of works to Allah is that which is most constant even if it is meagre." [Bukhari, Muslim]

In another instance he said: "Verily this Religion (of Islam) is very easy. No one ever challenges this Religion but it overcomes him. So be moderate, and try to approach perfection, and receive the glad tidings." [Bukhari]

This, therefore, is the sunnah (i.e. constant practice) of the Prophet, peace be upon him, and this is his method: an open, plain, easy road of moderation and observance of balance between spiritualism and materialism; an equilibrium between the requirement of the self and the right of the Lord.

Time in the Life of a Muslim - Yusuf Al-Qaradawi



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 27 January 2010 at 2:50pm

Seven Sunnas of Giving Gifts

1) To give gifts regularly, even if small gifts

2) To be moderate in giving gifts

3) To give without takalluf (making things difficult) for the person receiving the gift

4) To be sincere and not have ulterior motives

5) To give gifts that are beneficial

6) To give something that they like

7) Don't give a gift that imposes hardship upon a person that would be difficult to reciprocate

"Islamic Manners" by Shaykh Abdal Fattah Abu Ghudda


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 30 January 2010 at 1:01am

The Excellence of Generosity

Generosity is a virtuous trait that every Muslim should strive to attain. As for the believer who closely adheres to the teachings of Islam, kindness and giving from what he has become part of his good character.

Generosity is the opposite of stinginess, as stinginess is a disease of the heart. The Muslim should avoid this bad quality, for it is a source of corruption. The Muslim’s faith and righteous deeds purify his heart, so his hands should be outstretched, giving to those who are in need.
 
A generous man will share what he has with others, thinking about other people as he thinks of himself. He benefits by helping others and solving their problems. He makes people happy and prevents them from doing wrong, which is often a direct result of poverty. This is a great service to society, and there are some people who spend their life in this service, establishing valuable foundations which remain after them such as hospitals, libraries etc.
 
Whatever is given for Allah’s Sake will never decrease one’s wealth in the slightest; rather, it will bless, purify and increase it, as the Prophet peace be upon him said:
 
“Charity does not decrease wealth.” [Muslim]
 
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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 30 January 2010 at 5:26pm
Inter-Personal Relations
 
Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) narrated: The Messenger of Allah (may the blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
 
Each person's every joint must perform a charity (Sadaqa) every day the sun comes up:
  1. to act justly between two people is a charity;
  2. to help a man with his mount, lifting him onto it or hoisting up his belongings onto it is a charity;
  3. a good word is a charity;
  4. every step you take to prayers is a charity;
  5. and removing a harmful thing from the road is a charity.

(Collected by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
 

In this Hadith the Prophet (peace be upon him) has given us a few examples of acts of 'charity' (Sadaqa) that we should perform on daily basis. Charity in this Hadith doesn't refer to the act of giving money in Allah's way only, but in fact, it is a comprehensive term that includes any act or gesture that would help the community and would increase our awareness of Allah and His bounties. There are many out there in this world who think whatever power and material gains they possess today are due to their own efforts. However, Islam teaches us to reflect upon even the smallest of Allah's favours that we often take for granted, such as the smooth and proper functioning of our joints and organs in the body. We are taught to be humble and to thank Allah by being kind, helpful, and charitable towards our brothers and sisters, as well as to anyone in the society, regardless of their faith and culture. In addition, we realize from this Hadith that "Ibada" (worship of Allah) doesn't only include the devotion through acts of worship, but it also includes any action to help and support the community, done to please Allah, such as, visiting the sick, saying a word of advice or kindness, giving someone a ride to the Masjid or school, uniting two sisters or friends after an argument, etc.
 
Positive Criticism

It is the duty of a Muslim to keep an eye on the deeds and conduct of fellow Muslims and to try to help them to stay on the straight path. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) enumerated the conditions to be met in the task of advising others: "Each one of you is like a mirror to the other. You should rectify the wrong you note in him." (Tirmidhi) In another hadith the Prophet said: "Every Muslim serves as another Muslim's mirror. He safeguards his rights in his absence as well." (Abu Dawud) The following norms emerge in light of the above ahadith:

1. One should not look for the lapses and weaknesses of others. For a mirror does not seek defects. Only on coming face to face does a mirror reflect you.

2. One should not be criticised in one's absence. Once again the similitude of the mirror should be kept in mind; it does not reflect someone in absentia.

3. One should not exceed limits in criticising someone else. For a mirror does not magnify or diminish any feature.

4. Criticism should be forthright and free of any ulterior motive. For, once again, a mirror does not entertain any revenge or grudge.

5. One's criticism should be made with sincerity, genuine concern, pain and love. Sincerity in this context signifies one's concern for the ultimate accountability in the Hereafter. One should help a fellow brother in order to avoid any punishment for him on the Day of Judgement. Nor should one entertain any superiority complex. Rather, one should take oneself as weaker than and inferior to the person criticised by him .
 

Khurram Murad
 
 


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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 31 January 2010 at 2:42pm

Greatness through Gratefulness

There is much more to gratitude and Shukr (thankfulness) in Islam than a mere “Thank You” that our ears have become so used to ignoring. Discover how you can be more thankful to Allah and His creation.

1. Say “Al-hamdulillah” (All thanks and praise belongs to Allah) often: A constant utterance of this phrase reminds you of the source of all blessings and happiness in this life. This practice of attributing all good actions to Allah keeps you humble and content and has a positive effect on your relations with people.

Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, has instructed us to say “Al-hamdulillah” on daily basis: Allah is pleased with His servant if, when he eats something he thanks Allah for it, and when he drinks something he thanks Allah for it(Muslim).

2. Recite and memorize the Duas of Prophet Muhammad: The most natural and beautiful way to thank Allah is the words of the Prophet himself.

The Prophet told Muadh, By Allah, I love you, so do not forget to say at the end of every prayer, ‘O Allah, help me to remember You and to give thanks to You and to worship You well’ (Ahmad and At-Tirmidhî).

3. Use and display Allah’s blessings moderately: Part of being grateful to Allah is to look presentable and clean, and spend money on yourself with moderation.

Abul-Akhwas narrated that his father said: “I came to the Messenger of Allah looking dishevelled and scruffy. He asked me, ‘Do you have any possessions?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He asked me what sort, and I told him, ‘I have all sorts. Allah has given me camels, horses, slaves and sheep.’ The Prophet said: ‘If Allah has given you all of that then let Him see His blessing on you.’”

4. Thank people for littlest things: People like to be appreciated for little favours they do for us, which often get ignored in our busy routines. When was the last time you thanked your little son for taking care of simple chore for you? Has your husband heard a compliment from you lately?

Take the time to thank them for their thoughtfulness. As the Prophet stated,The one who does not give thanks for a small blessing will not give thanks for a great blessing, and the one who does not give thanks to people will not give thanks to Allah(Abu Dunya).

Taha Ghayyur



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 03 February 2010 at 1:58pm
The Importance of Reflection (Tafakkur)

"O our Lord, You did not create [all] this without purpose!"

( 3: 191)

Secret of High Spiritual Status

The secret of the high spiritual and collective status, which was attained by the Companions of the Prophet (Sahabah) was that their strong relationship with Allah was based on love. They did not feel, as many others do, any sort of 'inconvenience' or 'discomfort' in remembering Him or striving in His way, nor did they suffer from any 'distraction of confusion'.

You Do Not Stop Appreciating...

In human nature two qualities are not unknown to us: (1) the admiration of greatness, and (2) the acknowledgement of kindness. When you see a precision instrument or a latest appliance, or an exquisite picture, or an eloquent article, you do not stop talking of its beauty until your praise extends to its creator. The deep wisdom or skill of the individuals makes you bow your intellect to them involuntarily in respect and admiration. Likewise, when someone does you a favor, you always remember it, and your tongue expresses gratitude just as your heart is filled with praise and awe! A poet says: "Your favor has gained you three things from me: My hand, my tongue, and my hidden heart."

The Messenger of God (sall Allahu 'alayhi wa sallam) came to arouse these two qualities in the hearts of humans towards the One Who is most deserving of them. Do you not admire the greatness and salute its possessor? Do you not appreciate kindness and show gratitude to its doer? You surely admire the inventor of the aeroplane, and every time you see it streaking through the atmosphere your praise of his genius increases. So what do you think, therefore, of the One Who causes the thousands of stars to move in space without stopping or deviating? What do you think of Him Who created the mind of that inventor and deposited intelligence in the folds of his brain so that he could produce such things that arouse our admiration?

Is not your Lord and the Lord of all things more deserving of your praise for His greatness and favors? When you truly recognize His Mercy and Greatness through the magnificence of His creation and blessings to us, you would be ashamed to attack Him, or disobey Him, or neglect His guidelines for leading our worldly life, or to attribute anything unworthy to Him. You would surely exclaim, together with the people of knowledge and intelligence, the above verse: Rabbana, ma Khalaqta hazha Baatilan!

Worship Through Love & Reflection

Muhammad (peace be upon him) indeed united the people with their Lord on the basis of deep reflection. Thus when they rose to obey Him they were impelled to perform their duty by their heartfelt desire to pay their respects to the One who is truly Merciful. Worship in Islam is not obedience by force and anger, but obedience by will and love. Worship is not obedience from ignorance and negligence but obedience with knowledge and awareness.

That is why all the early predecessors of Islam used to emphasize reflection and understanding in order to come closer to Allah. Abu Sulayman al-Darani once said, "When I come out of my house my eyes fall on nothing but either there is a blessing for me in it, or a lesson."

Imam Hassan al-Basri says, "An hour of reflection is better than the prayers of a whole night." Similarly, Abd bin Qays narrates that he heard from several of the Companions that "reflection brightens the faith."

Fiqh-us-Seerah- Shaykh Muhammad Al-Ghazali (ra)



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:22am

Treatment of the Non-Muslims

Every Muslim has been made responsible to employ good manners in dealing with all the citizens of the land unhesitatingly. For every Muslim it is necessary that he should be truthful in dealing with the Non-Muslims. Similarly good qualities like charities keeping one's promise, tolerance, decency, generosity, co-operation, etc. are to be brought into play while dealing with Muslims and Non-Muslims alike.

It is a famous incident of the biography of the Prophet that he owed something to a Jew, The Jew demanded repayment and in a very harsh tone said: “O Sons of Abdul Muttalib! You people unnecessarily delay the repayment of your loans.” At that place Hazrat Umar bin AI-Khattab was also present. He decided to teach the Jew, who insulted the Prophet, good manners, and drew his sword from the scabbard. But the Messenger of Allah silenced Umar saying: “I and he deserve better treatment, Teach him to demand his money in a better way and advise me to repay it in a refined manner.”

Islam has commanded to deal justly and fairly even if the opponent may be a wrongdoer or an infidel. Allah’s Messenger has said: “The prayer of the oppressed is answered, If he is wicked and wrongdoer, its ill effects will go against him.” (Ahmed)

In another Hadith it is stated: “Even if the oppressed person is an infidel, there is no obstruction between his prayer and its answer.”

In the light of these authorities and the commands, Islam has advised its followers not to mal-treat their ideological and religious opponents. Similarly Islam has ordered that its followers should be kind to their relatives, even though they may have rejected this religion, which they have made their own.


"Muslim's Character" - Muhammad Al-Ghazali(ra)



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 2:23pm

Seeking Forgiveness

The Prophet (peace be upon him) was reciting the Names of Allah and remembering Him all the time. But sometimes due to being too busy in the affairs of the public or due to human needs, there was a pause in this eternal remembrance. Although such a pause was only momentary, this momentary pause was very much disliked by him; and considering it slackness on his part, he prayed for forgiveness from Allah. In this there is an important lesson for us.

In spite of our many sins and negligence on our part, we do not turn to Allah and seek forgiveness; while, although our Prophet had all his past and future sins forgiven by Allah, he sought forgiveness very often. Al-Agharr Al-Muzani (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah said:

"Sometimes I perceive a veil over my heart, and I supplicate Allah for forgiveness a hundred times in a day.'' [Muslim]


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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:41pm

Keep away from Mutual Enmity

When the quarrel intensifies and its roots go deeper, and its thorns become branches and branches increase in number, then the freshness of the fruits of faith is adversely affected. Softness, sympathy, satisfaction and peace which are encouraged by the Islamic teachings receive a setback. Performance of worship loses its righteousness, nor does the self get any benefit from it.

When a man is displeased, his eyes become prejudiced and ignore the camel and object to gnat. Such eyes do not appreciate the beauty of the peacock, for they only see its ugly feet and claws. If a slight defect is present, it turns the molehill into a mountain.

And sometimes the internal rancour and jealousy affect them so badly that no hesitation is felt in inventing imaginary stories. Islam disapproves of all these manifestations of ill-feeling and advises to abstain from them. It declares their avoidance as the most virtuous form or worship.

The Prophet has said:

"Listen, may I not tell you something more important than salat, fasting and charity.” The people requested him to do so. He said: "To keep the mutual relationship on the right footing, because the defect in the mutual relationship is a thing which shaves a thing clean, I do not mean that it shaves the hair, but that it shaves (removes) the religion." (Al Tirmidhi)

The best method adopted by the devil to drive people away from God is to sow the seeds of enmity in the hearts of the people. When this enmity develops into a fire and open hostilities result, he enjoys the scene. This fire burns man's present and future into ashes and totally destroys their relationship and virtues.

When wickedness takes roots in the hearts, and people start hating love and brotherhood and when these are destroyed, people revert to cruelty and enmity, and break all those relations and connections for which Allah has given commands to join; and thus they spread corruption on this earth.


"Muslim's Character " - Muhammad Al-Ghazali



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 2:35pm

Relieving the Distress of Others

On the authority of Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) who said, "Whoever relieves a believer's distress (kurbah) of the distressful aspects of this world, Allah will rescue him from a difficulty of the difficulties of the Hereafter." [Muslim]

A Kurbah is that which distresses the soul and preoccupies the mind. In this world, many aspects can be described as kurbah. A person could face difficulties, problems and challenges almost every day in his life.

This hadith demonstrates the importance of fulfilling the needs of one's brother. This type of deed, with its great reward, is open to any Muslim. This is so because it can be accomplished by using one's knowledge, wealth or authority. It may be by simply advising him to what is best or guiding him to something good. It could also be by praying to Allah to help the other person and relieve his plight.

The word translated as "relieves" is actually naffasa. This means to lighten or relieve the burden. It comes from the expression, giving breath to one who is about to suffocate. It is as if one relaxes the suffocating person and opens a passage for him to breathe so that he is able to take a breath.

One can only imagine what society would be like - indeed, what the world would be like - if every Muslim would take this approach to life. The Muslim would go out in search of those who are in need and troubled because he knows that by helping them, he is actually helping himself and, Allah willing, saving himself from great hardship in the Hereafter.

Incidentally, according to al-Haitami, the mentioning of relieving a believer's stressful situation was simply for the purpose of honouring believers and emphasizing the importance of their good treatment. Otherwise, he says, the reward stated in this hadith applies to relieving a distressful situation of any human.


"Commentary on the Forty Hadith" - By Jamaal al-Din M. Zarabozo



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 1:49pm

Never in Vain

There is this stigma involved in giving charity. It's that fear and doubt that whatever money we give will not be spent properly. We have to get over this. This hadith addresses this issue:

Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) said, "A man said that he would give something in charity. He went out with his object of charity and unknowingly gave it to a thief. Next morning the people said that he had given his object of charity to a thief. (On hearing that) he said, "O Allah! All the praises are for you. I will give alms again." And so he again went out with his alms and (unknowingly) gave it to an adulteress. Next morning the people said that he had given his alms to an adulteress last night. The man said, "O Allah! All the praises are for you. (I gave my alms) to an adulteress. I will give alms again." So he went out with his alms again and (unknowingly) gave it to a rich person. (The people) next morning said that he had given his alms to a wealthy person. He said, "O Allah! All the praises are for you. (I had given alms) to a thief, to an adulteress and to a wealthy man." Then someone came and said to him, "The alms which you gave to the thief, might make him abstain from stealing, and that given to the adulteress might make her abstain from illegal sexual intercourse (adultery), and that given to the wealthy man might make him take a lesson from it and spend his wealth which Allah has given him, in Allah's cause."

Sahih al-Bukhari: Volume 2, Book 24, Number 502



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 10 February 2010 at 2:10pm

Prophetic Wisdom on Neighbours

A slight nod of the head, a brief hello in the hallway or perhaps helping with a car stuck in the snow during winter. That's usually the most communication many of us have with those who are physically closer to us than most of our relatives, our neighbours.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) once said, "Jibril kept recommending treating neighbours with kindness until I thought he would assign a share of inheritance" (Bukhari and Muslim).

Wow, our inheritance.

But let's think of something smaller. How about food? It's been said that food unites. While we all have our own tastes, "American" food (i.e. fruits, veggies, chips, cookies, chocolate cake, frozen pizza, etc.) can be found in virtually all of our homes, even those who staunchly cling to their ethnic identities. When was the last time we offered a bag of chips or cookies to the kids downstairs? When was the last time we cut up some watermelon on a hot day and offered it to our neighbours?

"O Abu Dharr! Whenever you prepare a broth, put plenty of water in it, and give some of it to your neighbours," the Prophet advised his Companion in a Hadith in Muslim.

It's not just about hunger. In America, the land of plenty, Alhamdu lillah, we won't find the shortage of food we would in many Muslim countries. Here, food really is about uniting people, sharing what's common to our humanity. It's also about building neighbourly relations through small acts of kindness.

"By Allah, he is not a believer! By Allah, he is not a believer! By Allah, he is not a believer,'' the Prophet said. It was asked, "Who is that, O Messenger of Allah?'' He said, "One whose neighbour does not feel safe from his evil" (Bukhari and Muslim).

Maybe we're not so bad. At least we don't yell and scream at our neighbours, threaten them, cheat them or lie to them. But we're reminded of our negligence towards our neighbours when we realize that how we treat them relates to our relationship with God, which is the very core of who we are as Muslims.

The Prophet said, "the best of companions with Allah is the one who is best to his companions, and the best of neighbours to Allah is the one who is the best of them to his neighbour" (Tirmidhi).

Our very faith and connection to Allah is reflected in how we treat our neighbours. Perhaps this is the push we need to start connecting with them so we can better our relationship with God.


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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 11 February 2010 at 6:26pm
Salam – A Word from the Most Merciful

Ibn Mas’ud: The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, ‘Indeed Al-Salam is one of the Names of Allah which He has placed on the earth. So spread it amongst yourselves. * Indeed if a man passed by a people and greeted them with the Salam and they returned it, then he has a rank of goodness over them because he has reminded them of the Salam. If they do not return it, then it is returned to him by one who is better and nobler than them.’ -  [Majma' al-Zawa'id 8/32; al-Targhib wa al-Tarhib 3/416]

* i.e. To spread the greeting of peace by saying: As-salamu `alaykum (wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh)

Abu Hatim: It is only befitting for the wise one to adhere to spreading the Salam in general because the one who gives the Salam to 10 people gains reward equal to that of freeing a slave. The Salam is from the things that remove the intricacies of grudge and enmity (between people), it does away with the hatred in the hearts, it removes the breakage of ties and it purifies the brotherhood.

The one who initiates the Salam has 2 rewards: The first is that Allah blesses him with a rank (of goodness) over the one who is greeted because he reminded him of the Salam and (the second is) the Angels’ response to him when the person does not respond.

Zubayd al-Yami : ‘The most generous person is the one who gives out wealth without desiring reward (from people), the most forgiving of people is the one who forgives when he is a position of power (to punish), the most virtuous person is he who joins ties with one who has cut them and the most miserly of people is the one who miserly with the Salam.’

‘Ammar ibn Yasir (radhiallahu `anhu) said, ‘There are 3 things which whoever gathers them in his personality, has gathered faith itself: Spending out one’s wealth even though he has little, justice even against oneself and striving to give the greeting of Salam in this world.’

Abu Hatim: When a Muslim meets his Muslim brethren, he should greet him with a smile because that will eradicate sins from them both just as the leaves of a tree fall in the winter when it becomes dry. Whoever smiles at the people and meets them with a beaming face gains their love and affection.

Al-Abrash recited the following lines:

The one who smiles is a beloved one due to the beauty of his face
The miserliness of a person only hastens his dishonour
And I have not seen anything protect a person as much as kindness

Hisham ibn ‘Urwah relates from his father: ‘I have been told that it is engraved in the words of wisdom (the following): ‘O my son, let your face always beam and let your words always be sweet, for that is more beloved to people than giving them gifts.’

Habib ibn Abi Thabit: ‘It is from a man’s good character that he should converse with his friends whilst he is smiling.’



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 13 February 2010 at 2:36pm
Acquire Beneficial Knowledge
 
 
God said: "God will raise in rank those of you who believe as well as those who are given knowledge."

The Prophet said, "The best of men is the learned believer who, if he is needed, he will be useful; and if dispensed with, he will be self-sufficient." The Prophet also said, "God said unto Abraham, 'O Abraham! Verily I am knowing and I love every knowing person'." Again he said, "Should the day come wherein I increase not in knowledge wherewith to draw nearer to God, let the dawn of that day be accursed."

Concerning the superiority of knowledge to worship and martyrdom, the Prophet said, "The superior rank the learned man holds in relation to the worshipper is like the superior rank I hold in relation to the best of men." See how he placed knowledge on an equal footing with prophethood and belittled the value of practice without knowledge, despite the fact that the worshipper may not be ignorant of the worship he observes. Moreover, without this knowledge there would have been no worship.

'Ali ibn abi Talib said: "Learning is the glory of mankind, The wise are beacons on the road to truth; Man is worth his knowledge, nothing more- The fool will be his inveterate foe, Knowledge is man's hope of life immortal, Man may die but wisdom liveth ever."

Umar said, "O men! Seek ye knowledge. For verily God has a mantle of love for which He casts upon him who seeks knowledge even of a single section. Should he then commit an offence, God will remonstrate with him thrice in order not to rob him of his mantle, even tough that offence may persist with him until he dies."

Fath al-Mawsili said enquiring, "Would not the sick die if he is given no food or drink or medicine?" They said, "Yes". To which he said, "Similarly the heart will perish if it is cut off from wisdom and knowledge for three days." He did indeed speak the truth, for the nourishment of the heart, on which its life depends, is knowledge and wisdom, just as the nourishment of the body is food.

The Book of Knowledge, Imam Abu Hamid al-Ghazali



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 14 February 2010 at 12:17pm

Protect Your Tongue

I have found just one way of preventing oneself from falling headlong into hell: just keep your mouth shut about others except when you speak well of them. Never speak ill of others in their absence, nor level any accusation in their presence that you cannot prove.

Moreover, if you find people engaged in backbiting and you can neither get away from the scene, nor prevent others from backbiting, immediately begin to recite Istighfar (supplication seeking pardon from Allah).

Never try to find justification for your wrong actions. Having a relationship with others does not entitle you to violate their rights. On the contrary, because of this relationship, the action of violating their rights becomes even more grave.

Telling Tales

Calumny is another form of back-biting. The Quran condemns it thus: "A slanderer, going about with calumnies." (Quran 68:11) Hudhaifah ibn al-Yaman says on the Prophet's authority that such a person will not be admitted to Paradise. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) gave this special directive to his Companions:
 
"You should not convey to me any report about others for I prefer to have a clear conscience about all of you." (Abu Dawud)
 
Calumny may be done with gestures and body language as well and this is also prohibited.
 
Inter-Personal Relations-  Khurram Murad

 



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 16 February 2010 at 1:53pm

Excellence of Adopting Moderation in Dress

`Amr bin Shu`aib on the authority of his father and grandfather reported: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

"Allah loves to see the sign of His Bounties on his slave.''
[At-Tirmidhi].

A simple dress is commendable if one wears it as a gesture of humility winning Allah's Pleasure. Yet, to zealously pursue the goal of goodness, to extend a helping hand to the indigent and the needy, to behave favourably towards one's relatives and to wear a fine dress as a manifestation of Allah's favours are equally good acts of high merit.

A fine dress is not impeachable in itself but it becomes so, if worn with an air of arrogance and self-importance. On the other hand, an expression of Divine bounty makes it praiseworthy. In other words, it is the intention which makes an act good or bad. Alongside the practice of the example of the Messenger of Allah, the sincerity of action and making the right intention, therefore, become indispensable.


"Riyad-us-Saliheen" - Abu Zakariya Yahya



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La ilaha ill-Allah, Muhammadur Rasulullah


Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 17 February 2010 at 2:30pm

Islamic Manners

Islam, in its legislations, aims to produce a well-balanced individual in every way: psychologically, spiritually, and materially. Many of Islam’s injunctions are specially intended for producing peace and spiritual contentment by providing verbal remembrances for a Muslim’s every activity.

When a person’s thoughts are occupied with worldly concerns and his mind is full of worry about the future and all the problems of life, he becomes plagued with stress and mental pressure that impairs his productivity and makes him less able to deal with his problems.

For this reason, Islam pays careful attention to the psychological state of the human being and sets down for him a number of verbal remembrances. These remembrances strengthen his bond with Allah and provide for him a strong psychological and spiritual inspiration if he habitually uses them. Allah says:

“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, hearts find tranquility.”

Dale Carnegie came to realize this fact, and said: “The psychologists have realized that strong faith and adherence to religion are enough to overcome worry and nervous tension and to even cure these diseases.”

For all of these reasons, Allah’s Messenger (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) took care to make these remembrances an integral part of a Muslim’s behavior and good manners. When a Muslim adheres to all of the prophetic guidance, including the remembrances, he finds within himself the sweetness of obedience and spiritual contentment. He also attains great blessings from his Lord. Above all of this, he develops a strong bond with Allah Almighty.

1. The Etiquettes of Entering and Leaving the Home

Islam views the home as a place where people seek rest, security, and peace of mind. Therefore, it sets down a number of etiquettes to help realize all of these things.

A. Greeting those inside with salâm (peace): Salâm is the salutation of the inhabitants of Paradise. Allah says:

Their supplication therein will be: ‘Glory to You, O Allah’ and their salutation therein will be: ‘Peace’.”

Allah calls Paradise the abode of peace, because of the contentment and tranquility that it contains. Peace embraces within itself all goodness; otherwise it would not have been the reward of the inhabitants of Paradise.

Allah says:

“For them will be the abode of peace with their Lord. And He will be their protector because of what they used to do.”

For this reason, a person should give the greeting of peace upon entering the home, even if no one else is inside. Allah says:

“When you enter houses, greet one another with a greeting from Allah that is blessed and good.”

The manner of this greeting is to say: “Al-Salâm `alaykum wa rahmah Allah wa barakâtuh” meaning “Peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.”

The proper response is: “Wa `alaykum al-salâm wa rahmah Allah wa barakâtuh” meaning: “And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.”

This has been related by `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her). She said: “Allah’s Messenger (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me: ‘Jibrîl (Gabriel) recites peace upon you.’ So I said: ‘And upon him be peace and the mercy of Allah and his blessings.”

Al-Bukhârî relates the following hadîth on the authority of Jâbir (may Allah be pleased with him) in his book al-Adab al-Mufrid. Allah’s Messenger (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If you enter upon your family, greet them with peace, a greeting from Allah that is blessed and good.”

He then comments: “I see this as directing towards the statement of Allah: “When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with a better greeting or (at least) return the same.”

B. Mentioning Allah’s name: A person entering a house should mention the name of Allah, because Satan will not remain in a place where Allah’s name is mentioned. If the home is to be a place of contentment and tranquility, it has to be free from Satan whose goal is to lead the descendants of Adam astray. Allah says:

“Verily, Satan is an enemy of yours, so take him as an enemy.”

Allah the Exalted has informed us that the weapon to use to confront this enemy is to mention Allah Almighty. Allah says:

“And if an evil whisper from Satan tries to turn you away, then seek refuge with Allah. Verily, He is the All-Hearing, All-Knowing.”


Allah’s Messenger (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has taught us what to say when entering our homes: “O Allah, verily I ask you for the best entry and the best departure. In Allah’s name we enter and with Allah’s name we leave. And upon Allah we put our trust.”

When a person wishes to leave his house, he should greet its inhabitants with peace and then depart well dressed and groomed.

He should then recite the prayer of leaving the house: “In the name of Allah; I believe in Allah, rely upon Allah, and put my trust in Allah. O Allah, verily I seek refuge with you from falling astray or leading others astray, from stumbling into error or causing others to fall into error, from being oppressed or oppressing others, and from being ignorant or facing the ignorance of others.”

It is related by Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) that Allah’s Messenger (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever says (when leaving from his house): ‘In the name of Allah, I put my trust in Allah. There is no might or power except with Allah.’, then it will be said to him: ‘You are sufficed, you are protected, you have been guided, and you are saved from Satan’.”

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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 18 February 2010 at 2:32pm
Generosity
 
In Islam, it is an anathema to give away in charity what is shoddy and inferior. There is parsimony and miserliness in this. The Muslim tradition is to give away from what one loves; God blesses this charity and extends its goodness.

Generosity is one of the highest virtues of Islam and one of the manifest qualities of the Prophet (peace be upon him), who was known as the most generous person. The word for generosity here is derived from karam, which also means nobility. In fact, one of the most excellent names of God is al-Kareem, the Generous. It is better to go beyond the minimum of what the Sacred law demands when giving Charity. This generosity is an expression of gratitude to God, who is the Provider of all wealth and provision.

[Purification of the Heart]


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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 20 February 2010 at 4:45pm
 
"Whoever receives a favor and says to the doer, "JazakAllahu khair (May Allah grant you a good reward)," has excelled in his appreciation."
 
 [Al-Tirmidhi]
 
 
Jazakallahu Khairan
 
This is a statement of thanks and appreciation to be said to the person who does a favour. Instead of saying "thanks" (Shukran), this phrase is used. It means: "May Allah reward you for the good."
 

"Glosssary of Islamic Terms" - Aisha Bewley


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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 23 February 2010 at 4:55pm
MODESTY STEMS FROM FAITH

As related by Ibn Umar, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) passed by a Muslim from Medina who was telling his brother to stop being modest and said to him:

“Leave him as he is; for modesty stems from faith.”

(Bukhari, Faith 16; Muslim, Faith 57-59)

Every Muslim who believes in Allah -the All-hearing, All-seeing and All-knowing- knows that a person is not alone even if no one is at his side. He is always in the presence of his Lord. The awareness of this helps a person to develop a system of auto-control. Modesty finds its source in this sensitivity and prevents a person from doing wrong.

The feeling of modesty tops the list of characteristics that distinguish man from other animate things. There is a widespread belief that modesty puts a person to a disadvantage in the modern world. However, the obstacle to getting one’s right is not the existence of modesty, but the person’s weakness, shyness, cowardice and inefficiency. It should not be forgotten that sahaba (companions of the Prophet) women have been praised for conveying the most private questions a woman could ask to the Prophet, because their modesty did not prevent them from learning their religion.

According to Imam Ghazzali, one of the signs of a child’s mental maturity is the emergence of the feeling of modesty, and he says that this period is the best time to begin the child’s education. In Islamic thought, because the mind is a vehicle for both mental and moral enlightenment, a genuine belief in Allah which can be instilled in a child’s mind will have prepared a strong foundation for training of the conscience and behavior. Different character and personality make-ups that will appear after this in the social structure will be accepted as a source of enrichment. Just so long as it is not forgotten that the race for superiority can only be to increase goodness.

http://www.lastprophet.info/en/meral-gunel/modesty-stems-from-faith.html - http://www.lastprophet.info/en/meral-gunel/modesty-stems-from-faith.html

The Prophet, peace upon him, said, “Every religion has a defining characteristic, and the defining characteristic of my religion is modesty.”Ibn Majah #4181

The Prophet, peace upon him, mentioned, “By shy before Allah as is His full right.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah! We are shy before Him, and all praise is for Allah.” He said, “That is not what I mean. Rather, to be shy before Allah as is His full right is that you guard your head and everything associated with it [ears, eyes, etc.]; and that you guard your stomach and what it consumes; and you should remember death and the time you will be decomposed. One who desires the hereafter leaves off chasing the adornment of the world. Whosoever does all of this has been shy before Allah as is His full right.”

 Tirmidhi #2458
 
 


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 25 February 2010 at 12:57am

Humility in Islam

Muslims constantly strive to remember and practice Islamic virtues, and put them into practice throughout their daily lives. Among these great Islamic virtues are submission to Allah, self-restraint, discipline, sacrifice, patience, brotherhood, generosity, and humility.

In English, the word "humility" comes from the Latin root word which means "ground." Humility, or being humble, means that one is modest, submissive and respectful, not proud and arrogant. You lower yourself to the ground, not elevate yourself above others. In prayer, Muslims prostrate themselves to the ground, acknowledging human beings' lowliness and humility before the Lord of the Worlds ...

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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 26 February 2010 at 6:00pm

Taking pains to remove the pains of others is the true essence of generosity.

 [Abu Bakr radi Allah anhu]

SHEIKH HAMZA YUSUF GENEROSITY IN ISLAM PT: 1/4

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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 4:50pm
Helping Others to Reconcile their Differences
 
When people live together in harmony, life is beautiful. How good it is when all members of society get along with each other in a spirit of mutual respect and mutual affection. It is a sign of our faith in Allah when we deal with people in kindness and fellowship.

It is also part of human nature to seek the fulfillment of our needs. Some of these needs are material, like food, clothing, and shelter. There are other needs which are intangible, but which are just as important to a balanced existence. Human beings are social creatures. They need other people. They need meaningful relationships. For social relationships to be healthy and beneficial, they must be based upon personal dignity mutual respect. Problems arise when such respect and dignity are lacking.

Mutual respect does not require a close relationship, since the basis for all human interaction is that of human dignity. Allah says: "And truly We have honored the progeny of Adam." [Sűrah al-Isrâ': 70]

Therefore, respect is the underlying principle for our social existence.

Problems between people are inevitable. However, because people are social creatures, they cannot retreat into seclusion whenever problems arise. It is not always possible simply to avoid a person just because that person has done something wrong or hurt our feelings. People need to be able to live together.

Therefore, it is crucial that people find a way to coexist that guarantees societal cohesion and allows them to fulfill their social needs. Allah says: "O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you might get to know each other. Verily the most honored of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous." [Sűrah al-Hujurât: 13]

Yes. We need to get to know each other, just as Allah commanded us. We must deal with each other on a footing of equality and fairness, guided by our piety. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother – or neighbor – what he loves for himself." [Sahîh Muslim (64)]

Problems will take place between people, no matter how sincere we try to be. We make mistakes, and at times that is part of our growth, since we learn from our mistakes. The problem is not that we will fall into disagreements or have disputes. The problem is when we fail to understand how to resolve them. Sometimes, even our most well-meaning attempts to make things better go wrong, and we only manage to exacerbate the situation.

At times, when there is a grievance between two people, we might want to intervene and resolve it. However, we must be careful not to aid someone in injustice or in denying someone else what is his or her right. The Prophet (peace be upon him) made this clear to us when he said: "Help your brother, whether he is the wrongdoer or the one who is wronged."

The Companions were certainly surprised by this statement. They said: "We understand how to help our brother when he is wronged. But how do we help him when he is the wrongdoer?"

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Stop him from doing wrong. That is how you help him." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (6438)]

This is a distinction we need to keep in mind when settling other people's disputes. We help a wrongdoer by getting that person to stop his or her wrongful behavior. We help someone who has been wronged by restoring to that person his or her rights.

The question remains as to what we do when neither party in a dispute is willing to budge. How do we break the deadlock? How do we reconcile their hearts?

1. Seek the help of insightful mediators

Not everyone is capable of putting various situations into perspective and of seeing things from opposing perspectives. These are unique talents.

Allah describes the type of person a mediator should be when he says: "And if you fear a breach between the (husband and wife), then appoint a judicious arbiter from his people and one from her people " [Sűrah al-Nisâ': 35]

And when He says: " So when they have reached their prescribed time, then retain them (in marriage) with kindness or separate them with kindness, and take for witness two persons from among you, endued with justice." [Sűrah al-Talâq: 2]

Therefore, an arbiter should possess insightfulness (wisdom) and be a just person. This is the only way to ensure that he or she will not inadvertently bring injustice upon either party to the dispute.

2. Do not resort to mere personal opinion in declaring something wrong

Even when we make an initial determination of fault, we also need to consider the outlook of the people involved. We must consider how they weigh the seriousness of various infringements. Some people might consider a certain act to be trivial while others consider it a problem of massive proportions. We need to take these differences of perspective into consideration. They are often the result of a person's environment, upbringing, or cultural norms.

3. Distinguish between actions & reactions

When someone does something wrong to another person, we need to identify the reasons behind the action in order to remedy it.

When the other person, in turn, reacts to the wrongdoing, we need to approach the matter a bit differently. Maybe the reaction was minor in comparison to the initial grievance. On he other hand, maybe the reaction was severe, so much so that it has manifested itself as a further problem in its own right. In this case, we need to advise both the initial wrongdoer and the one who overreacted in a suitable manner.

The perpetrator of the initial wrong needs to be prevented from persisting in his wrongdoing. Amends need to be made. The person who overreacted to that wrongdoing needs, in turn, to be placated. We need to be reminded him of the virtue of controlling our anger and of maintaining the moral high ground.

4. Distinguish between the restoration of rights & the virtue of clemency

It is critical to make this distinction. When attempting reconciliation between two people, we cannot gloss over legitimate grievances, nor can we fail to restore to the aggrieved party his or her rights. We cannot seek a mere cosmetic reconciliation by extolling the virtues of forgiveness, patience and clemency.

We need to emphasize the rights to which each the various parties to a dispute have a legitimate claim. We must assist the wronged parties to get those rights restored. This is the way to maintain people's relationships with one another on a sound basis.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is an excellent example for us in this matter. Once, he was straightening the ranks of the soldiers. He taped them into place using a thin tooth-stick. However, one of his Companions complained that he had injured him when he tapped him with the stick.

In response to this complaint, the Prophet (peace be upon him) calmly opened up his shirt and invited the Companion to strike him in turn. The Prophet (peace be upon him) did this, even though he had not intended to injure the person in the least. At this point, the Companion kissed the Prophet on the place where he was to hit him back.

We can draw two valuable lessons from this account.
a. We should hasten to make amends when we do wrong to others, even when we did not intend to do anything wrong. We should always do our best to maintain good relations with others.

b. We should make a distinction between the restoration of rights and expectations of clemency. We can see that the Prophet (peace be upon him) did not lecture that Companion on the virtues of patience, brotherhood, and forgiveness. He did not accuse the Companion of having a bad opinion of him. He simply offered to make amends.
Alas, today, we often add insult to injury when dealing with someone who has been wronged, criticizing the aggrieved party for not exercising patience and forbearance in adversity when all that is really needed is to simply make amends.

We see the same degree of judiciousness when `Umar, at the time he was Caliph, ruled that the Coptic Christian should disgrace Ibn `Amr b. al`-As publicly in the same way that Ibn `Amr had disgraced the Copt publicly. When people know that they will be made to live up to the consequences of their wrongdoing, this will prevent them from engaging in wrongdoing in the first place.

Finally, we need to recognize that, when it comes to the party who has been wronged, we need to make a distinction between those who are in a position of strength and those who are in a position of weakness. A person who possesses authority or who is in a strong position should be reminded of the virtues of clemency and be encouraged to pardon a wrongdoer. However, a person who is weak and does so out of fear or shame is not exercising a virtue. That person is simply being made to suffer further. The best way to restore social harmony and cohesion in this case is by redressing that person's injuries.

And Allah knows best.
 
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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 07 March 2010 at 11:11am
“Until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself”
 
Anas relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
 
 “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”
[Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim]
 
Al-Jurjânî says about it: “This hadith is one of the foundations of Islam.”
 
It is a most eloquent summary of how a Muslim is supposed to conduct himself with others. Al-Nawawî relates to us that Ibn Abî Zayd, the leading jurist in Morocco of his time, said: “All the etiquettes of virtue can be derived from four hadith – ” Then he mentioned the following statements of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
 
1. “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should say something good or remain silent.”
2. “ From the perfection of a person’s Islam is his leaving alone what does not concern him.”
3. “Do not get angry”
4. “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”
 
This hadîth shows how people are supposed to relate to each other. It negates base emotions such as envy and establishes the vision of a society based on mutual responsibility and caring.
 
This hadith is not saying that a person becomes an unbeliever for failing to hold in his heart such love for others. It is merely stating that his belief is deficient.
 
This is made clearer by a narration in Musnad Ahmad that reads: “A worshipper does not attain the truth of faith until he loves for the people what he loves for himself of good.”
 
This is similar to many other statements of the Prophet (peace be upon him), like:
 
“By Allah he does not believe… whose neighbor is not safe from his abuse.” [Musnad Ahmad]
 
What is being said is that a person’s faith is incomplete, that the roots of faith are not firmly embedded in a person’s heart and soul.
 
This hadith shows the humanity of Islam. A person cannot be considered to be fully a believer until he loves for others what he loves for himself. This meaning is not restricted to his fellow Muslims; it applies to all humanity. Indeed, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Love for the people what you love for yourself and you will be a believer.” [Sunan Ibn Mâjah]

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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 1:47pm

Excellence in all things

"Verily, Allah has prescribed (Kataba) excellence (Ihsan) in all things."

Ihsan is a very vast concept. It embodies both the concept of perfecting a deed in itself as well as doing excellence towards others. In this hadith, it seems that Allah is requiring both types of Ihsan. However, the more apparent meaning is the concept of performing an act in the best way possible. But this also implies doing well to others, beyond the minimum expected, as this is the best way to treat others.

The order of Ihsan is sometimes an obligatory order and sometimes a recommended order. For example, the order to have Ihsan towards one's parents or one's visitors is an obligatory type of Ihsan. The order to give voluntary charity is also an order of Ihsan but, obviously, in this case, it is only a recommended form and not a required one.

The important point that should be emphasized is that Ihsan is sought after. Allah has requested it and it is very pleasing to Him. Hence, regardless of which level it is, obligatory or recommended, every true believer should seek the quality of Ihsan in all of his deeds. He should realize that there is a level of Ihsan that is beyond that which he should strive for in all of his deeds.

Ihsan is not simply in matters of worship. Instead, this concept should rule a person's behaviour in every realm of his life. When dealing with others, the principle of Ihsan should dominate how he works and deals with others. He must fulfill their rights, this is the obligatory level of Ihsan. However, he should also try to go beyond that and be, for lack of a better phrase, "better than them". He should treat them beyond the minimum that is required of him.

"Commentary on the Forty Hadith of al-Nawawi" - Jamaal al-Din M. Zarabozo




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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 12 March 2010 at 2:02pm

Ihsan in Relationships

No relationship can be established on measuring constantly whether one has fulfilled one's obligations. One should not be very particular about one's own rights, with a view to ensuring that one gets all that is one's due. Rather, one should be ever-ready to do favours for others.

A strictly business-like relationship may work. However, this would be lacking in mutual love, gratitude, sacrifice, sincerity and warmth, which are so important in life. Doing good stands for excellent conduct, generous dealings, a sympathetic attitude, good manners, forgiveness and making allowances. One should be prepared to accept less than one's due and give others more than what they deserve. This point is eloquently made in the following hadith:

"O Allah! Let me maintain ties with him who severs these. Let me grant him his due that deprives me of what is due to me. Let me forgive him who wrongs me." (Mishkat)

In other words, this character trait demands that one should give others over and above what is their due. More importantly, one should do good to him who wrongs one. For true believers are those who repulse evil with their good deeds.


"Inter Personal Relations" - Khurram Murad



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 3:10pm

Righteousness is Good Character

On the Authority of Al-Nawwaas ibn Samaan (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said, "Righteousness (birr) is good character (khuluq)." Recorded by Muslim.

The word birr is used in two senses. The first is treating others in a good fashion. If this is the usage intended by the Prophet in this particular statement, then the hadith must be understood to mean, "Good character is essential to righteous dealings with others."

The second sense in which birr is used refers to all acts of worship and obedience to Allah, both inward and outward. If this is what the Prophet meant in this hadith, it can be understood as, "Righteousness is good khuluq," in the general sense of khuluq as explained below.

One's khuluq is a combination of understanding, intention and deeds, with the last two aspects playing the most important role. If a person has good intentions followed by good deeds, it is said that he has good character or good morals. If a person has bad intentions followed up by evil deeds, it is said that he has bad character or bad morals.

Among many Muslims today, there is a misconception concerning khuluq. If a person is kind, nice and sweet, they say that he has a good character or khuluq. They may say this even if the person does not pray or fast, for example. One may even hear the statement, "He does not pray but he has a good character." This demonstrates a lack of understanding of the Islamic concept of khuluq and its all-inclusive nature.

Khuluq is often divided into three categories: khuluq with respect to the Creator, khuluq with respect to other humans and khuluq with respect to oneself. Two other categories should be added to the commonly mentioned three categories: khuluq with respect to all the other creatures that Allah has created, and khuluq with respect to the Earth and all of its natural resources. All of these categories comprise a person's khuluq. For a person to have good khuluq he must have good khuluq with respect to all of the different categories of khuluq. It is not sufficient to be good in one category and then fail with respect to the other categories.


"Commentary on the Forty Hadith of al-Nawawi" - Jamaal al-Din Zarabozo



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 16 March 2010 at 9:48am

Personal Inner Qualities needed for Brotherhood- Mercy

  • A study of the Quran and Sunnah indicates that there are two inner qualities which form the foundation of this relationship of brotherhood (ukhuwwah) and love (hubb) among the Believers for the sake of Allah alone.
  • The first quality is the presence of Rahmah or Mercy. And the second is the feeling of Zull or Humility. When the Quran describes the Muslims it uses these two words to explain the state of their relationship: "they are merciful amongst themselves" [Surah al-Fath: 29] and "they have an attitude (a state of heart and mind) of humility towards the others" [Surah al-Hashr: 9-10].
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  • These two are essential not only for a successful interpersonal relationship but also for the cohesion of any jama'ah (or organization). We know that Rasul Allah himself has been described as Rahmatal lil 'Alameen (a Mercy for the Worlds). But in one place the Quran goes on to say "The Prophet is dearly compassionate ('azeez), kind (ra'oof) and merciful (raheem) to his followers" [Surah al-Tawbah: 128].
  • In another place the Quran says "It is only Allah's mercy that you (O Muhammad) are soft hearted to them. Were you hard in heart and crude and rough in your attitude all these people who are now flocking around you would have flown away" [Surah ale-’Imran:159].
  • It is not simply the Message but the Messenger's mercy and compassion that made people bind to the da'wah and jama'ah which was being built. This mercy, which is Allah's main attribute, is also the Prophet's attribute, and must therefore be enforced in all our conduct.
  • If I want to describe all the do's and do not's it will take perhaps a few hours, but if we want to simplify it, mercy cannot allow abusing, mercy cannot allow ridiculing, mercy cannot allow backbiting, mercy cannot allow saying words that which will hurt.
  • Actually mercy will encompass in it hundreds of things which off course have been elaborated in both Hadith and Quran. So the Hadith says "Be merciful to those who are on earth and He Who is in the heavens will be merciful to you!"

[ "Interpersonal Relationships" - Khurram Murad]



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Posted By: a well wisher
Date Posted: 22 March 2010 at 8:48am

The Small Charity

"Do not belittle even the smallest act of kindness, even if it were no more than meeting your brother with a smiling and cheerful face." [Muslim]
"Guard against the fire, even though it be with half a date. And, if anyone does not have even that much, he should do so with a good word." [Bukhari]

We should never consider any charity too small or not worth doing or giving. Some people cannot bring themselves to  utter a kind and pleasant word. It will not cost a penny to say a good word, but so miserly have we become that we are not even prepared to utter a word of kindness, praise and encouragement. It will make a lot of difference to our spouses, siblings, and neighbours - be they Muslim or non-Muslim - if we were to be loving and kind in all our inter-personal relationships.

"In the Early Hours" - Khurram Murad


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Posted By: Al-Cordoby
Date Posted: 31 March 2010 at 6:50am
Feeding the Guest

A sahabi (companion of the Prophet) came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and complained of hunger and distress. Just then, the Prophet (peace be upon him) had nothing in hand, or in his house, to feed him. He asked the sahaba if anyone would entertain him as a guest tonight on his behalf? One of the ansars said that they would do that.

The ansari took the person to his house and instructed his wife, "Look here, this man is a guest of the Prophet. We will entertain the best as we can."

The wife replied "By Allah! I have no food in the house, except a very little something just enough for the children."
 
The husband suggested his wife to put the children to sleep without feeding them, while he sits with the guest over the meager meal. He told his wife that when they start eating, put out the lamp pretending to set it right, so that the guest may not become aware of my not sharing the meal with him.

The scheme worked very well, and the whole family, including the children stayed hungry to enable the guest to eat to his full.

It was over this incident that Allah revealed the verse:

“They prefer others above themselves, even though poverty becomes their lot” (59:9)

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